March 12, 2010

The Man on the Horse- Do We Care How He Smells?

To be honest I like the latest, hottest commercial on television because it is funny, not because the man selling the product is good looking from head to toe and has a voice that could whisper in my ear anytime. The sensuality is a plus. But it is a good commercial, it’s a funny commercial and the [...]

March 11, 2010

Divorce Has No Age Limit

Kristen Houghton, author and Lifestyle Writer

At the end of my couples seminar the woman who had organized the workshops approached me. After telling me how much she had enjoyed all the workshops presented that day, she said,

“There’s something that is never included in these workshops, though. No one ever discusses the divorce rate of [...]

March 2, 2010

A Celibate Marriage: the pain and unhappiness in an era when sex sells

“We are living in a time when it seems as if sex is used to sell everything. From laundry detergent to pancakes, from make-up to hair dye, sex sells. We are inundated with it.”

I was doing a seminar on Sex, Love, and Marriage. During a break a well-dressed, pretty but nervous woman came up to [...]

January 29, 2010

Horny the Horse

Horny the Horse

by Bob Grant

Horny the Horse had it made in the shade,

Had his nose in the air and his tail in a braid.

Had a mare in his stall – the envy of many,

A beautiful mate with the short name of Jenny.

But Horny had eyes for the pastures around,

And the pretty young mares he searched for and [...]

January 22, 2010

Tiger Woods is Where?!?!

The rumor mill is at it again and although there may be some truth to this rumor there is much sadness connected to it. Tiger Woods is in rehab for sexual addiction.

They have got to be kidding? Right?

No, someone spotted him at a clinic in Mississippi where it is said it may take him five [...]

January 8, 2010

Are You a Minnow or Are You a Whale?

Are You a Minnow or Are You a Whale?

by Bob Grant

Are you a Minnow or are you a Whale?

Is it for real or maybe a tale?

Like open waters or only small spaces?

There all the time or just certain cases?

Like breathing room and wide open air?

Are you that cave with a small snoring bear?

Are you a showoff [...]

December 9, 2009

Advice for Would Be Cheating Men

Listen up all you would be philanderers and potential assassins of family virtues. I come to warn you about the sirens out to tempt and snare you. You think your status as celebrity will cover your sins as your bodyguards watch your back and your publicists protect your image. But trust me, these temptresses with [...]

October 19, 2009

Deacon Demented

Stephen Sangirardi
Bard715@aol.com
Deacon Demented
 
   The Aspirants for the Diaconate were told to go to the Large Theology Room, and I was one of those who went. Adjacent to Large Theology stood the Small Theology Room, but being men who sought ordination we showed the proper obedience and filed into the Large and not the Small. Truthfully, [...]

October 7, 2009

Curing Depression

Carl Jung

Now here is another brain teaser for your therapist, or should I say mind teaser, the notion of curing someone with depression. Sadly, this is one of the most common causes of problems in marriages, and while we look for help from the professionals they take advantage of that vulnerability with a platform [...]

September 18, 2009

Curing Alcoholism

Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage

If you would like to get your therapist’s head spinning ask him or her what it means to be cured and watch as your therapist struggles to answer that question.  The unfortunate reality is the psychology industry, with its biological foundation, has not yet defined what it means [...]

September 11, 2009

Decision Time

Decision Time–Steve Sangirardi
 
  From 1971 to 1976 I was involved with my first girlfriend, Laura. For the inaugural year of our relationship–I was a high school senior and she was a sophomore–we saw each other every day, except one when she had to go to an aunt’s anniversary in New Jersey; to compensate for the [...]

September 9, 2009

Sex Surrogates: The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 3

International Professional Surrogate Association

I am sorry to be so hard on the psychology industry but some of their practices done in the name of “science” bely belief, and I have discovered another concept ridiculous to the point of being hilarious.

Before I go into that concept I do want to discuss what had been my [...]

August 28, 2009

Question: Is Marriage Dead?

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

I’m half way through my two month blog tour on relationships.  The stops have generally been both interactive and productive.  I’ve particularly like the stops where the topics were questions related to relationships.

I wanted to share one in particular, at the Long Relationships blog. [...]

August 25, 2009

KEEPING MEN GUESSING

And we usually guess [...]

August 8, 2009

A Simple African Band

Just a simple African band

woven of elephant hair

by a long discarded culture

July 6, 2009

Moment of Clarity

            This essay was written after reading a post by sobrietygirl about her battle with addiction and sobriety and the many comments and words of encouragement she received this weekend. It made me think about my own recovery. I have never put this down on paper before. My thanks to [...]

July 5, 2009

Am I Ready to Start a Business? 10 personal questions to ask yourself before you commit

 

     No, we won’t begin with “Do you have a master’s degree?” Although education does matter, higher education is not a requirement for starting or succeeding in a new business. In fact, according to a 1992 United States Census Bureau report, [...]

May 29, 2009

Book Excerpt: Do We Develop or Not?

 

 

Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage

We know from Darwin’s theory of evolution that the notion of development elicits controversy from many intellectual corners.  If we think about the notion of development through to its conclusion then many established organizations lose their grip on us as individuals.  This question becomes extremely important in relationships. [...]

May 8, 2009

Relationships Advice: Transference Causes Divorce

 

 

 

Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage

Here is the most significant point made in the entire book, transference causes divorce.  This one single point can probably do more than any other to motivate couples to learn how to move their relationships in the right direction.  And for the first time ever on a public [...]

April 29, 2009

Book Excerpt: Are We Biological Beasts or Psychological Beings?

 

 

 

Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

I want to pose to you one of the most significant questions needed to understand before we are going to solve our marriage problem.  Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?  Unfortunately the belief within the mainstream teachings of the psychology industry is that [...]

April 24, 2009

Unfortunate episode at the clothing store

I want to shriek, “Don’t you dare tell me what size I am! I am a professional dieter. I can list the calories, fat, fiber, and sugar content of every food ever invented. Go ahead, test me!” Feeling mall security would not take kindly to a raving maniac in bulging britches, I opt to keep closed my pie [...]

April 18, 2009

Old Fart

            I can never leave the house again. I cannot subject myself to the embarrassment of my affliction nor can I bring myself to force others to suffer along with me. No one should have to choose between pity and disgust for my sake. I should not expose myself to [...]

April 10, 2009

The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 2

 

 

 

Lenn

I would like to begin this post by stating that yes I am generalizing psychologists with posts like this, but as I get more involved in my project I am running across more concerned psychologists who do understand the notion of psychological healing through forgiveness by unlocking past experiences that cause individuals to have [...]

April 1, 2009

Blog Tour on Relationships with Relationship Expert Tim Kellis

 

 

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

Hello

The month of April is upon us and I would like to invite you for a Blog Tour I will be doing this month, and next. The focus on the tour will be relationships, and the discussion is sure to be lively. 

I want to [...]

March 23, 2009

Book Review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers

Hello.  
I wanted to share with you a recent book review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers.  To view the review online please visit the following link:

“Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” Book Review

 

If you would like to pick up a copy of the book you can get it for a 20% [...]

March 16, 2009

The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists

If you want to know why we have a 50% divorce rate you need to look no further than the “logic” used by the professionals.  And I have a wonderful example for you.  Below you will read a comment that someone actually posted to a blog interview I hosted.  To see the full blog interview [...]

March 10, 2009

Roses: A Love Story by an Anonymous Author

Red roses were her favorites, her name was also Rose.
And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows.
The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door.
The card said, ‘Be my Valentine,’ like all the years before.
Each year he sent her roses, and the note would always say,
‘I love you even more [...]

March 6, 2009

A Letter to Rihanna

Dear Rihanna:

I have tried to leave your name out of the talk about domestic abuse but you keep returning to the mix. I understand you and Chris Brown are back together and that cause a plethora of problems on which you probably never focused. You think this is none of my business but you are [...]

March 5, 2009

My Inspiration for Writing “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”

 

 

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

My biggest influence, and the reason I have taken on the challenge of saving marriages, were my parents, who again just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary.  And their influence wasn’t because of anything they ever said to me, but what they did, [...]

March 3, 2009

How Do You Each Handle the Intellectual and Emotional Side in the Relationship

Handling the Intellectual and Emotional Side in the Relationship

The notion of development has been hotly debated for centuries by men and women of knowledge, as demonstrated by the difficulty in accepting the theories of Darwinism.  Within relationships, this concept becomes even more significant, because if you understand the notion that you are developing a relationship, [...]

February 26, 2009

When Only One is Working on the Problems in the Relationship

 

For an article I’m writing for CNN.com, I’m seeking both nationally known relationship experts as well as “real” people to talk about this topic: when the person you married or fell in love with makes a drastic life change. Perhaps she used to love burgers, but then became a strict vegan and now pushes [...]

February 24, 2009

Quid-Pro-Quo in the Relationship

 

WendyK Says:

How do you communicate with your spouse

I don’t really have any questions. Sounds boring I guess. But we seem to be doing good. After nearly 13yrs of marriage we have our rough stops, our fights but honestly we can’t imagine NOT being married to each other. We both agreed when we got [...]

February 23, 2009

What if your spouse gets on your nerves

Periodically I will post questions and answers from blog interviews I have done on other blogs.  Here is one regarding what to do if your spouse gets on your nerves.  

Tim Kellis Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

 

 

 

Dorothy Says:

So excited to see Tim out there! I just received his book [...]

February 18, 2009

Managing Conflicts in Relationships

Here is an article I wrote up regarding managing conflicts in relationships.  You can view the blog story at the followin link questforthehappymarriage.blogspot.com.  The article was written for a journalist for The Times Union.   

So How Should Couples Handle Their Conflicts

I’m not a yeller. I never have been. When my sister and [...]

February 17, 2009

Blog Interview on Relationships

This is my first post and I wanted to thank Bob for allowing me to join your community.  

Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

I have written a relationship book that solves the marriage problem entitled “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”.  I am just beginning my Internet publicity and am [...]