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August 28, 2010
Posted by Jose Antonio Ponce in: Creative Writing, Freelance Author, Latino & Hispanic, Life Experiences, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Personal Experiences, Relationships, Sex, Women's Perspective
 “Jesus, I’m late. I’m is so much trouble.” She says.
“What’s the problem?” I’m puzzled. She regularly works after hours to get things accomplished. We’re working on a project together, nothing earth shattering. “It’s like….seven o’clock. Does he expect you home at a certain time?”
“No. It’s you. He doesn’t like me hanging out with you.”
“But we’re not hanging out. I mean….it’s work. It’s not like we’re having dinner or anything.”
“It’s don’t know,” she says, “He gets all weird and moody and he won’t talk to me.”
“Wow. Sorry. I mean….I didn’t know. I’ll try to be more discreet next time. Less enthusiastic.” I say this with conviction, but inside I’m jazzed. I’m a threat. I have crossed that boundary into another man’s territory and he actually feels threatened by me. I’m the big dog. Continue reading Jazzed
August 24, 2010
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Begun back sometime in 2001, this book was originally a fluke of an idea… [...]
July 10, 2010
Posted by paul perry poet in: Advice, Creative Writing, Life Experiences, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Nature/Wildlife, Personal Experiences, Philosophical Genres, Poetry, Relationships, Sex, The Writer's Corner, Uncategorized
they’re all nuts
and they wanna drive us nuts
and they do,
some of us lose it bad
some of lose it good. Continue reading with or without them
July 1, 2010
no love story
“Looking out the window on a gray day, I see two pigeons on the ledge of the old house across the street. One pigeon seems to be pecking at the other pigeon which sits cuddled by its side. Perhaps the one pigeon is being dear to the other pigeon, and I wish someone would be dear to me. Suddenly, the one pigeon that was doing the pecking bobbles away to the other side of the ledge, and eventually flies away. Perhaps they misunderstood each other. I wish someone understood me.”
There was a knock on the door. Jimmy Burns was sitting at a small table by the window. Ants crawled along the floor. “Maybe they’ll share something,” he thought. Jimmy could see footsteps through the crack under the door. There was a second knock. Jimmy sat silently still, only moving to lift the cigarette to his mouth.
“I know you’re in there you bastard, open the door!” came the voice from outside.
Jimmy didn’t budge. He was unemployed. Down. Out. Nowhere to go, nothing to do. Whoever it was knocking knew that. There was a third knock. Continue reading no love story
June 28, 2010
It’s not as easy as it looks. [...]
April 29, 2010
This happened not quite 20 years ago. A Saturday afternoon that turned into a Sunday morning when the girls got on the roof of a friends apartment building and enjoyed each others company for hours. My husband called at 2am to see when I wanted to come. I could have told him never I was so happy to be in the company of women my age, all of the artists of some kind and all of them taking out these hours to just be one of the girls. There was no competition, no showing off, no mean words. We weren’t all friends when we went on the roof but when we left we were united as sisters because of one story that was told when we decided to discuss “the first time”. Continue reading Up on the Roof with the Girls
April 2, 2010
My husband is on the phone giving advice to a younger man about love and marriage. We are supposed to be going out together in two hours. It will certainly be three. He tells his friend:”Minnette and I are completely opposites. she does things zip, zip, zip and asks me why am I moving so slowly. But man, it works. We are together, in part, because opposites attract.” Continue reading Together- Forever
March 2, 2010
“We are living in a time when it seems as if sex is used to sell everything. From laundry detergent to pancakes, from make-up to hair dye, sex sells. We are inundated with it.”
I was doing a seminar on Sex, Love, and Marriage. During a break a well-dressed, pretty but nervous woman came up to talk to me. She asked if I had ever encountered a person who was living in a celibate marriage.
“I don’t mean not having sex for long stretches of time because of certain problems that can be resolved. I mean never having sex, sleeping together in a bed but not being intimate for years.”
I nodded my head; I had heard about it. She was talking about a celibate marriage.
We see intimacy on daytime programming, loving couples in commercials, and nighttime shows filled with happy people either in the midst of, finishing, or seriously about to have, sexual relations. Sex sells because it is a part of our minds, our egos and our physical needs. Most people not only need it they want it. This is especially true in a marriage, where one of the great joys of being with the person you have chosen to spend your life with should be sexual intimacy. The harsh reality is of married sex is different from what we believe. 1 in 20 couples live their married lives in a marriage that lacks sex. Continue reading A Celibate Marriage: the pain and unhappiness in an era when sex sells
January 25, 2010
The first time I fell in love I thought my heart would explode with joy. There was so much excitement about being in love, about having feelings for someone else so strong that each day when I woke up I wanted to know I would see his face or hear his voice. It’s been a long time since that first bud of what I thought was love came to rest on my soul but I am sure I smiled like an idiot and walked into walls and doors as my head for probably in the clouds. I had no idea where being in love would take me except into the arms of the one I loved. I was 14 and somewhere inside I knew this love would not lead to marriage or children. Somehow I knew we were not after the same rainbow’s end. Continue reading The Same Rainbow’s End
January 6, 2010
Once in a great while you have the privilege of witnessing true, pure, selfless, unconditional love, as our Creator intended it to be, and it totally revolutionizes your understanding and concept of just what real love is. It shakes you back to reality and makes you appreciate what you have with your spouse, as imperfect and sometimes frustrating as it may be. I was fortunate enough to witness this first-hand and I will be forever impacted by it. [...]
October 18, 2009
Christopher G Moore launches Paying Back Jack and risks his marriage. [...]
October 14, 2009
Stephen Sangirardi
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The three faces of Steve, or Eve
Do you think Chaucer was a great listener? The great writer must be an intense listener and observer. He listens, uses his empathy, and imagines what it must be like to be the person he is audience to—the wife who has lost her husband to another woman who happens to be a school-teacher, and so whenever the distraught wife appears at a family gathering, you can hear her blustering of her triumphant return to college, her outstanding G.P.A. and test exemptions, her punctilious use of ‘who’ and ‘whom’ for she has returned to college to fortify her wounded ego and compete with the teacher who absconded with her husband, this other woman who is presumably smarter than the bereft wife…but not for long! The teacher is also fat, even though firsthand observation from the cousins has testified that the other woman is not fat at all, far from it. The writer listens with compassion to all this and, of course, he will never allow the wife to read this very piece about her, unless she comes upon it by accident. Maybe then she will understand her compensation in the guise of her boastful transcript which is necessary to preserve her sanity. Better to have a sacroiliac than an unfaithful man! Better to have the weapons to stab this other woman than to go down gentle into that good night.
The writer listens and imagines and empathizes, and then writes a monologue about that person in her own words…the way Chaucer did when he sat in some Tabard Ale House and absorbed with great interest everything that the Wife of Bath and the Pardoner had to say. Now there were two tormented souls beneath the gaiety. The writer immerses himself in the other person’s life because he is chiefly concerned with a suffering humanity, and finds his true self via this immersion. He refines himself out of existence, while paring his fingernails, forgets about his own egocentricity for awhile, and the next thing he knows he has written some dramatic monologue, and if in his work he has two or more such people interacting he has written a story or a play or a novel, some winter’s tale full of sundry characters. If he is lucky, he may even mitigate that humanity’s suffering in his depiction of it, like a jealous husband at last overcoming his senseless jealousy by reading about another’s in Othello. Did Chaucer write Othello?
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October 8, 2009
While visiting a spa/winery in Georgia I kept tripping over bridal parties. The Saturday I was there the hotel had five weddings and a silver wedding anniversary party. That Sunday there were three more weddings. I could look out of the window in my room and watch them set up for the ones on Par 3, purple petals spread around the chairs and the cello and violin players seated in the shade and all dressed in black. In the huge lobby one hundred guests watched as vows were exchanged. The night before the wedding planner made them rehearse four times. I watched from the window of the lounge, a glass of wine in hand and wondered do they know the secret for a good lasting marriage is simply two things? If I told them would they believe me? Continue reading Toilet Paper, Toothpaste and Marriage
October 7, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Books, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Aspects, Social Issues, Spirituality, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Wellness
 Carl Jung Now here is another brain teaser for your therapist, or should I say mind teaser, the notion of curing someone with depression. Sadly, this is one of the most common causes of problems in marriages, and while we look for help from the professionals they take advantage of that vulnerability with a platform that doesn’t get to the root causes of depression. All the while, we spend about $12 billion a year on therapy and $15 billion on pharmacology drugs to treat “mental illnesses”, particularly depression.
I even find it hilarious that there is an ad on TV promoting a drug called Abilify that begins by stating that 2/3rds of people suffering from depression still have depression symptoms after taking traditional “medicine”, in essence admitting the inability of the medical approach to curing people. After all, our “mental illnesses” are biologically based, hence the medical approach to a “cure”, and there is really nothing that can be done mentally.
But there was a psychologist who actually did cure people, the one-time heir apparent to Freud by the name of Carl Jung. I refer to Jung as the greatest psychologist who ever lived basically because of the fact that his objective was to cure his patients.
Let me relate to you one of his patients whom he did cure, a patient suffering from depression. Ironically, the professionals of his day actually diagnosed her with Schizophrenia. Boy I can imagine the response from the professionals if I would have titled this post “Curing Schizophrenia”, because as most people realize after 100 years of propagating the biology conclusion, Schizophrenia is incurable. Continue reading Curing Depression
September 18, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Books, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Life Experiences, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Personal Experiences, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Wellness, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage If you would like to get your therapist’s head spinning ask him or her what it means to be cured and watch as your therapist struggles to answer that question. The unfortunate reality is the psychology industry, with its biological foundation, has not yet defined what it means to be mentally cured. What makes this notion even more amazing, is the rest of us as a society knows the answer to this question, to be happy with yourself. To clarify, though, individual happiness has nothing to do with the level of wealth or looks, but is an internal quality where the individual finds balance in his or her perception of self against the backdrop of the rest of society.
I wanted to discuss one psychological problem to demonstrate my point, the notion of alcoholism. Modern medical definitions describe alcoholism as a diseaseand addiction which results in a persistent use of alcohol despite negative consequences. The Journal of the American Medical Association defines alcoholism as “a primary, chronic disease characterized by impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with the drug alcohol, use of alcohol despite adverse consequences, and distortions in thinking.” According to Wikipedia it is estimated that 9% of the general population is predisposed to alcoholism based on genetic factors.
In other words, alcoholism is defined as a biological disease defined by the genetic makeup of the individual. Alcoholics Anonymous’ basic text, known as the “Big Book,” describes alcoholism as an illness that involves a physical allergy and a mental obsession. And of course the mental obsession occurs because of the biological makeup of the brain. Because of this definition there is no attempt on the professionals part to “cure” the alcoholic. In fact, the 12-step program in AA basically teaches people that they have a disease and must give their lives up to God to manage their disease, despite the fact that the fourth step involves clarifying those experiences from the past that have caused the mental problems in the first place, in what is called the “moral inventory”. Continue reading Curing Alcoholism
September 17, 2009
Whenever I attend weddings, which is a lot less often than I attend funerals nowadays, and it gets to the bit (at least during the Church of England service) where the vicar reads out that marriage is a holy sacrament endorsed by Christ because he attended the wedding in Canaan, I always think “Wow! Is that their best shot? Christ endorsed the holy state of matrimony because he turned up at a wedding to ensure that all the participants were breathalysed on the way home?”
Circumstantial evidence is not evidence, my friend, otherwise the Christ would also have to be taken as endorsing prostitution, crime and the Devil. Not so keen on that now, are we (except the mafia)?
However, the story behind this seemingly inoffensive passage is much more interesting.
The Bible suggests that Jesus the Christ and the apostles were a cohesive group, with the exception of Judas Iscariot, that dirty little turncoat, who got what was coming to him, and Thomas who lost his faith momentarily.
Not quite so. Continue reading Does attendance constitute endorsement?
September 10, 2009
To be honest most mornings I want to throw my husband out of the window. He comes to bed late having spent the early hours on the computer with African and Asian companies, he snores like a train in need of engine work and he is retired. I wake and look over at him wanting to throttle him. Then I exercise or write (or both depending on how much sleep I go through as his bullhorn of a system snored and kept me up) and when I leave for work I smile and plant a kiss on his cheek. One kiss because. . . Continue reading One Kiss
September 9, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Books, Communications, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Morality, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Sex, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 International Professional Surrogate Association I am sorry to be so hard on the psychology industry but some of their practices done in the name of “science” bely belief, and I have discovered another concept ridiculous to the point of being hilarious.
Before I go into that concept I do want to discuss what had been my all time favorite, and shows really the lack of understanding of the psyche of the individual.
One of the most common “disorders” is a notion referred to as obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD, where an individual becomes obsessed with a thought pattern, followed by a compulsive behavior. A “treatment” for this “disorder” is referred to as Exposure Response Prevention Therapy, or ERP Therapy, where the individual is exposed to his or her obsessive thought, followed by the prevention of the subsequent behavior.
Wikipedia defines ERP as follows:
Behavioral therapy
The specific technique used in BT/CBT is called exposure and ritual prevention (also known as “exposure and response prevention“) or ERP; this involves gradually learning to tolerate the anxiety associated with not performing the ritual behavior. At first, for example, someone might touch something only very mildly “contaminated” (such as a tissue that has been touched by another tissue that has been touched by the end of a toothpick that has touched a book that came from a “contaminated” location, such as a school.) That is the “exposure”. The “ritual prevention” is not washing. Another example might be leaving the house and checking the lock only once (exposure) without going back and checking again (ritual prevention). The person fairly quickly habituates to the anxiety-producing situation and discovers that their anxiety level has dropped considerably; they can then progress to touching something more “contaminated” or not checking the lock at all—again, without performing the ritual behavior of washing or checking. Continue reading Sex Surrogates: The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 3
September 6, 2009
Of all sins, sexual sin is the most physically rewarding and brings instant gratification, therefore making it extremely tempting. It is also based on a natural desire. However, this desire, this gift from God, must be used properly and in accordance with God’s will. We all want and need food, and God approves of our nourishing our bodies. But God will condemn us if we eat food that doesn’t belong to us. Many and varied foods are readily available and we can buy them, so this natural desire is easily filled.
These thoughts may be obvious, but I wanted to preface my remarks this way for two reasons. First, we sometimes forget when we talk about sexual sin that sex, like food, is of itself a very good thing and not something for which we need to feel shame or embarrassment. Second, most of us probably seldom think about the fact that the person we are dating is going to be someone else’s spouse if he turns out not to be ours.
We need to regard the man we are dating with respect because he may someday belong to another woman. He does not belong to us yet and may never be ours. We need to behave toward him in the same manner that we hope our future spouse is being treated by the woman he is dating. Continue reading Thrift Store or Saks Fifth Avenue?
September 6, 2009
Posted by Tina Rae Collins in: Attitude, Cancer, Creative Writing, Family, General Topics, Healthcare, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Mental Health, Motivation, Poetry, Relationships, Self-Help, Spirituality, Wellness, Women's Perspective
When time stands still All you can do is ponder, And wonder how you got to where you are. Could you have foreseen it? Could you have prevented it? Will you look back in sorrow Or consider it a blessing? You find no answers But only long for the day When time resumes.
September 2, 2009
Posted by AngelaPoseyArnold in: Advice, Attitude, Biography & Memoir, Family, Freedom, General Topics, Healthcare, Inspiration & Motivation, Marriage, Recovery, Relationships, Religion, Short Stories, Social Issues, Spirituality, Uncategorized
On the Other Side of the Storm
By Angela Posey-Arnold RN BSN
We could not hear the deafening tornado siren as golf ball size hail pounded our metal roof during the vociferous storm upon us. The house shook, my heart beating so fast I forgot to breathe. The air thick as though it was being sucked out of the house. I thought our house would explode. Howling winds encircled and the hail continued the barrage on our usually peaceful quiet farm. Crouched in the safe room I held my two dogs with one hand and my hard hat with the other. Covered in pillows and a comforter I remember thinking, ‘when will it end?’ In six minutes it was over. I breathed.
Emerging outside to survey possible damage, the sun actually started to shine. The storm was gone. My adrenalin and heart rate returned to normal. We were on the other side of the storm, we survived.
Looking at the green leaves scattered on the porch they appeared to have been through a shredder. The hood of our truck dented and dinged, it took me back, reminiscent of the life storms we endured and survived. Continue reading On The Other Side of the Storm
August 31, 2009
Posted by Bob Grant - Editor in: Accountability, Business, Congress, Current Events, Democracy, Economics, Foreign Affairs, Governance, Marriage, Medical, Opinion, Politics, Relationships, Religion, Social Issues
Whether it is in personal, or business matters, I have always tried to conduct myself where “My Word” matters. If I say something – promise something – commit to something – I give “My Word” and try to follow through with my commitments. I bothers me tremendously, when for one reason or another, I [...]
August 28, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Accountability, Advice, Books, Communications, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Internet Advice, Interview, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
 Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" I’m half way through my two month blog tour on relationships. The stops have generally been both interactive and productive. I’ve particularly like the stops where the topics were questions related to relationships.
I wanted to share one in particular, at the Long Relationships blog. I had stops on 3 consecutive days. The first day the questions was is marriage dead. I also want to add the dialogue that ensued. Here is the link to that blog post.
Question: Is Marriage Dead?
When you sit back and ponder for a moment “what is the biggest problem we as a society are dealing with today”, how would you respond? Is it global warming? Or maybe feeding the hungry? Or possibly our current economic situation?
While these issues get a lot of headlines I would actually have to say our biggest problem is the current culture of marriage. After all, we constantly hear that 50% of those who declare in front of family, friends and God “for better or worse” end up ending what began with such hope and promise. Continue reading Question: Is Marriage Dead?
August 25, 2009
And we usually guess wrong! [...]
August 21, 2009
Posted by AngelaPoseyArnold in: Accountability, Attitude, Biography & Memoir, Book Marketing Online, Books, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Healthcare, Inspiration & Motivation, Marriage, Medical, Relationships, Religion, Social Aspects, Social Issues, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Wellness, Women's Perspective, Working Women, Workplace
By the time she arrived he had seen, diagnosed, and treated at least ten patients sometimes forgetting to charge them. Francie arrived to find her work cut out for her for the day. They worked all day sometimes without a break until dark, or until the last patient was seen whichever came first. [...]
August 18, 2009
Randy and Susan
by John Armor
Some names just belong together. Mention one, and the other comes to mind automatically. Romeo and Juliet. Tom and Jerry. Currier and Ives. So it is with Randy and Susan, who came up this weekend to hike a part of the Bartram Trail and had dinner with us on Saturday.
Randy is E. Randolph Wootton, Jr., a classmate and friend of mine for six years at the Gilman School in Baltimore. Susan is Susan White Wootton, also a friend at the same time, who attended Notre Dame Preparatory School in Baltimore.
I graduated in a class of 66, as I recall. There were exactly two of my classmates who had dated the same girl for all their years since they first discovered girls. Both pairs married, had children, went into their professions. In one couple, Walter Leach tragically died young, twenty-five years ago. So, that left Randy and Susan as the one, lifetime pair.
Several of us in the class dated Susan on occasion. She was, and is, attractive, witty, with a fine sense of humor. But there was never any doubt that Randy was her guy. End of discussion. And the same was true for Randy. Susan was, since they began dating at about age 15 his lady. End of discussion. Continue reading Randy and Susan
August 17, 2009
Posted by mrlloyd in: Marriage
Divorce sucks. I enjoy being married I truly love it, my first marriage lasted 13 years, but we grew a part and then we divorced; and then I had a long relationship with a girl friend that lasted 8 years; and then I met someone whom I knew from years ago, we got together [...]
August 12, 2009
Posted by AngelaPoseyArnold in: Advice, Current Events, Family, Foreign Affairs, Foreign Relations, Freedom, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Relationships, Religion, Self-Help, Social Aspects, Social Issues, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Wellness
A Letter from Your Guardian Angel
Greetings to you, my charge, in the name of The Lord our God and Creator Who lovingly assigned me to you. I am always happy when God sends me to do something really important in your life. Great joy filled my soul last week when I intervened in the car accident you almost had. You knew it was me, didn’t you? You felt the brush of my wings.
There are just a few things we need to clear up. I suppose it is odd for you to get a letter from me, your Guardian Angel, but I can’t wait any longer to serve this message to you.
I bring glorious good tidings of great joy. I know you can’t see me but you know I am there. Remember when your grandmother passed away and you felt my presence? Yes, that was me, sent by God to comfort and protect you. I am always with you. I am in the cool breeze on a hot day, the glint of light in the dark night and the comfort you feel while you praise Him.
I want you to know I am not in the little golden pin you see on lapels throughout your culture. I am surely not a trumpet toting porcelain figurine on the coffee table. I am a messenger and a protector for
you. Everything I do is by command of God. Continue reading A Letter From Your Guardian Angel
August 8, 2009
Just a simple African band
woven of elephant hair
by a long discarded culture
that truly believed in forever.
And when you gave it to me
you said that it would bind me
to you for all of time
my heart, my soul, my mind.
Continue reading A Simple African Band
July 17, 2009
Let’s try looking before we leap. [...]
July 9, 2009
Motherhood is a noble profession and a sacred responsibility. As a mother, you are the most important person in your child’s life. Without in any way diminishing the role or importance of the father, it is the mother who has been created to be the loving, nurturing figure in her child’s life. Once children reach school-age, teachers and coaches play a primary role in their lives. Many mothers assume their role is not as vital as it was during those earlier years, but that is a fallacy. The older a child gets, the more vital it is to continue to be available. Mom remains the most important person in the life of her child, regardless of what society, or her child, say to the contrary! Our challenge as mothers is to realize that until our children have “left the nest” and established homes of their own, we are the most important person in their lives. [...]
July 3, 2009
Below is the epilogue to my second book, She Taught Me To Laugh again. It is the story of a mid-forties couple who lost their spouses to death. I describes the trials and tribulations of grieving, falling in love, and trying to build a new life together. The capstone of the book is our wedding on September 30, 1995. It is a moving story of two people daring to fall in love again. You can preview both books on www.thomasbrownbooks.com
Epilogue
On the day of one’s wedding, the last thing the happy couple wants to think about is the death of their spouse. As Connie and I both found out, it happens. It is a tragic event in one’s life that has severe complications. The grief that follows is real. It is both emotional and physical. Life for the surviving spouse is difficult and at times meaningless. When this is compounded with meeting someone else who has just lost a spouse, as in our case, the emotions are very mixed. We were comforted, having someone to talk to that knew what the other was going through. But our friendship quickly developed into love.
Our story is only one of many thousands. Every day someone loses a loved one. It is our hope that our story will inspire anyone who loses a spouse that is possible to rebuild his or her life. We didn’t do it perfectly, but we did it. We both worked a lot on our individual grief, but we always had each other to fall back on. Continue reading Tom Brown – Epilogue to Second Book
June 14, 2009
A wild rose sprang up on the edge of the garden.
Amid stones and weeds and hard crusted clay.
Ignored by the gardener she grew unattended.
Hoping just to survive near the garden pathway.
She was ragged and homely, not much of a rose.
Unnoticed in a place not easily viewed.
In the shade she retreated from the gaze of the sun.
Taking care to keep hidden, lest she be removed.
When the summer storms came she was left in the open.
Unprotected from the season’s full fury spent.
Still the gardener never noticed this rash, rugged flower
growing wild and tall despite his contempt.
Through a hole in the fence I noticed this rose.
Surviving in spite of indifference each day.
She grew many thorns to protect her from all
who dared come too near or to pluck her away.
Continue reading A Wild Rose
June 12, 2009
what will I do once you are gone?
look after the boys
and carry on
respond to your mail
answer your phone
and reassure folks I’m ok alone
once you are gone I’ll get my mind set
put on a brave face
and look after our debt
take stock of my memories
line up my regrets
level my head and try not to forget Continue reading Once You Are Gone
May 29, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Publishing, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage We know from Darwin’s theory of evolution that the notion of development elicits controversy from many intellectual corners. If we think about the notion of development through to its conclusion then many established organizations lose their grip on us as individuals. This question becomes extremely important in relationships.
We need to look no further than our corporate environments to get a real sense for the answer to this question, for corporations live and die by the notion of development. The following excerpt from “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” addresses just that question, and the perspective of two very influential organizations on our lives. The question is whether we as individuals develop or not?
Do we develop or not, that is the question?
GE’s involvement as a component of the Dow Jones Industrial Average (DJIA) index tells us so much about this most important question. Two men, Charles Dow and Edward Jones, who had started a newspaper company devoted entirely to covering business news, began publishing the newspaper The Wall Street Journal in 1884, developed the DJIA in 1896. The DJIA index was invented as a gauge of the success of our economy. Continue reading Book Excerpt: Do We Develop or Not?
May 8, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage Here is the most significant point made in the entire book, transference causes divorce. This one single point can probably do more than any other to motivate couples to learn how to move their relationships in the right direction. And for the first time ever on a public forum, you can read what I am talking about. For the first time a psychological cause of divorce is explained.
The following link was one of the stops on my blog tour on relationships, where I visited Blogging Authors to discuss this very important point. To view the link please visit:
Transference Causes Divorce
MONDAY, APRIL 13, 2009
April 29, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Literature, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" I want to pose to you one of the most significant questions needed to understand before we are going to solve our marriage problem. Are we biological beasts or psychological beings? Unfortunately the belief within the mainstream teachings of the psychology industry is that we are nothing more than biological beasts. The industry still experiments on animals to try to extrapolate behavior in humans.
Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?
It is impossible to completely explain the significance of going the biology route instead of the psychology route. The hypothesis that our behavior is driven by our biological needs implies we are born with our problems and there is not a damn thing we can do about it. The notion that our psyche is psychologically driven implies we can learn and we can think, or develop.
In other words, the biological concept holds we are born with our brain pre-wired and that our psychological development occurs when our experiences activate the pre-wired neurons and synapses creating behavior. Or put another way, the biological conclusion would lead psychologists to claim that our understanding of the use of the computer occurs because we are born with the knowledge of how to use the computer and we simply must use the computer and these pre-wired neurons and synapses become activated, giving us the understanding of the use of the computer, to behave by using the computer. Continue reading Book Excerpt: Are We Biological Beasts or Psychological Beings?
April 10, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Lenn I would like to begin this post by stating that yes I am generalizing psychologists with posts like this, but as I get more involved in my project I am running across more concerned psychologists who do understand the notion of psychological healing through forgiveness by unlocking past experiences that cause individuals to have mental imbalances.
But I continue to believe this is a minority of the psychology community.
I wanted to continue a post I published concerning the response I received on the notion of mental equality between a husband and wife. My declaration was met with criticism by comparing men and women with bananas and peaches, with the statement about how bananas and peaches can be equal. To see the full discussion please visit the following link:
happymarriages.com/?p=101
Continue reading The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 2
April 1, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Marketing Online, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
 Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" Hello
The month of April is upon us and I would like to invite you for a Blog Tour I will be doing this month, and next. The focus on the tour will be relationships, and the discussion is sure to be lively.
I want to begin by thanking Dorothy Thompson at Pump Up Your Book Promotion (http://www.pumpupyourbookpromotion.com/) for her tireless work over the last 2 months putting this Blog Tour together.
She already has the month of April filled up, and is sure to have a full lineup for May too.
Our first stop is going to be Lessons from a Recovering Doormat. Please join us on April 1st at http://www.lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat.com/ to participate at our first stop. Continue reading Blog Tour on Relationships with Relationship Expert Tim Kellis
March 28, 2009
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March 23, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Creative Writing, Education, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
Hello.
I wanted to share with you a recent book review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers. To view the review online please visit the following link:
“Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” Book Review
If you would like to pick up a copy of the book you can get it for a 20% discount at the following link:
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 "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
Equality
The Quest for the Happy Marriage
Tim Kellis
Gilgamesh Publishing
ISBN: 978-0-9799848-0-8
440 pages
When I began reading Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage, by Tim Kellis, I expected to read a typical counseling book such as those that fill the shelves of bookstores. Most of these are written by experts in the field of counseling who have degrees in psychology, psychiatry, or pastoral ministries. I was totally wrong in regard to the word “typical.” This book delves deep into the mind, reminding readers of historical happenings, successful businesses, politics, education, religion, family backgrounds, and the scientific work of many individuals, all which, according to the author’s findings, can unlock some of the mysteries as to what is behind the 50 percent divorce rate among couples who promised to love one another “for better or worse.” Continue reading Book Review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers
March 16, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Accountability, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Rights
If you want to know why we have a 50% divorce rate you need to look no further than the “logic” used by the professionals. And I have a wonderful example for you. Below you will read a comment that someone actually posted to a blog interview I hosted. To see the full blog interview please visit the following link:
authorkellymoran.blogspot.com/2009/03/kelly-interviews-author-tim-kellis.html
 Bob Snider
I also want to let you know that there is a 20% discount on my relationship book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”.
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March 10, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, Spirituality, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
Red roses were her favorites, her name was also Rose.
And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows.
The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door.
The card said, ‘Be my Valentine,’ like all the years before.
Each year he sent her roses, and the note would always say,
‘I love you even more this year, than last year on this day.
My love for you will always grow, with every passing year.’
She knew this was the last time that the roses would appear.
She thought he ordered roses in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know, that he would pass away.
He always liked to do things early, way before the time.
Then, if he got too busy, everything would work out fine. Continue reading Roses: A Love Story by an Anonymous Author
March 5, 2009
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Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
My biggest influence, and the reason I have taken on the challenge of saving marriages, were my parents, who again just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. And their influence wasn’t because of anything they ever said to me, [...]
February 19, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
Here is a book review you might find interesting on “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”. Please visit www.happyrelationships.comto pick up your copy today, for a limited time at 20% off. Also please visit our blog at questforthehappymarriage.blogspot.com for an ongoing discussion.
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