September 1, 2010

Accepting What Comes: Aging Gracefully

I’ve queried seniors about whether they feel “elderly.” Whether the respondent was 70, 80 – I even got to ask someone who was 99 – the answer was almost always identical, “I pretty much feel like I always have.’” [...]

August 30, 2010

Republicratarian?!

As a child, I heard that you should not discuss politics or religion in polite company.  When I broke this rule as a teenager, I learned some of the reasons why you shouldn’t.  However, if you don’t discuss these issues, you can never learn, nor can you come to any consensus.  Honesty seems to be the best method of arriving at acceptable solutions in compromise.  What is disconcerting is polarization.    My mother always told me to think for myself, and arrive at my own conclusions.  She was referring to gossip at the time, but the same philosophy is applicable here.  I grew up around a great many Democrats.  My great-grandmother, “Granny” was from Brooklyn, New York.  She used to tell me stories of how our distant relative named Al Smith had run for President as a Democrat.  By her recollection, he was turned down because he was a Catholic.  As she was a Catholic, she was proud that John Kennedy was elected as the first “Catholic” President.  My father was a Teamster, and the union was “right” about everything.  I heard stories of Harry Truman (whom I probably would have really liked) and others in politics. Continue reading Republicratarian?!

August 28, 2010

Jazzed

“Jesus, I’m late. I’m is so much trouble.” She says.

“What’s the problem?” I’m puzzled. She regularly works after hours to get things accomplished. We’re working on a project together, nothing earth shattering. “It’s like….seven o’clock. Does he expect you home at a certain time?”

“No. It’s you. He doesn’t like me hanging out with you.”

“But we’re not hanging out. I mean….it’s work. It’s not like we’re having dinner or anything.”

“It’s don’t know,” she says, “He gets all weird and moody and he won’t talk to me.”

“Wow. Sorry. I mean….I didn’t know. I’ll try to be more discreet next time. Less enthusiastic.” I say this with conviction, but inside I’m jazzed. I’m a threat. I have crossed that boundary into another man’s territory and he actually feels threatened by me. I’m the big dog. Continue reading Jazzed

August 28, 2010

Kathmandu, home of the World’s dirtiest toilet.

Kathmandu, home of the World’s dirtiest toilet.
 
Kathmandu. Mystical, magical, mountainous, fresh Himalayan air, launch pad for all the great expeditions to Everest, a place of prayer bells and enchantment – or so I expected.  But no, it’s a shit’ole, and my sincere apologies to those who have to live in the shit, but I can’t find a way of softening the blow. I’ve seen abject poverty in dozens of other countries,  but nothing prepared me for what I found here. The town centre is a maze of deeply potholed, unnamed, narrow streets, permanently gridlocked with trucks, cars, motorbikes, rickshaws, and people. Behind the tinselled facades of shops selling tourist tat are tiny living areas, dark, low-ceilinged staircases, and owl-eyed children sitting in the darkness on mud floors. These dwellings – they can’t be called homes – make Havana’s crumbling tenements look like show houses. Huge mounds of rotting rubbish adorn every street corner, and spill into the river. They are picked over by scavenging people, monkeys, crows, dogs, pigs, and cows by day, and rats by night. Surely it’s not beyond the wit and resources of the local council to employ two men with shovels and lorry, and have it removed? But that’s corruption in politics for you – money for the infra-structure goes into the pockets of those in power.  It didn’t help that I came at the end of the monsoon, with rain filling the potholes, which Kamikaze motorbike riders then sprayed up into walkers’ faces. When the sun came out, the stench on every street was unbearable. Enough to put you off your food.   Continue reading Kathmandu, home of the World’s dirtiest toilet.

August 27, 2010

The Great March

Tomorrow is the 47th Anniversary of the March on Washington. It is a significant date in the history of this country, August 28, 1963. Never before had so many American people, 300,000 or more, gathered in one place to lift in one voice of shared concern for “jobs, and freedom”, and equality for all Americans. Others have tried to duplicate the event and its success but this political rally organized by civil rights, labor, and religious organizations calling on all Americans in support of civil and economic rights for African-Americans, that took place in Washington, D.C, were Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. delivered his “I Have a Dream” speech at the Lincoln Memorial would  come to be known as “The Great March on Washington.

At 6:30 the morning of August 28, 1963 my grandfather in Pennsylvania and my parents in New York City boarded two buses both bound for Washington in the District of Columbia. All three of them were journalist; all three were Americans of African decent; all three held great expectation, pride and there was a jubilant hope in their hearts. Continue reading The Great March

August 24, 2010

It’s difficult to remain positive

Research has actually proven that humans are “hard-wired” to assume things will go cattywumpus rather than not. Given the opportunity to attribute a random event to either good new or bad, we will usually assume the road has more potholes than flat patches. [...]

August 24, 2010

The Gaslight Journal is Done

Begun back sometime in 2001, this book was originally a fluke of an idea… [...]

August 21, 2010

I Love New York

I love New York, I always have, I always will. Now wait, wait hold on a second, you say, didn’t you leave New York several years ago?  Yes, I did but not because I didn’t like living there.  I left because I didn’t like the cold winters in New York.  I strongly dislike winter’s cold, snow and ice except at Christmas. Christmas weather is supposed to be cold isn’t? Yeah, it is, so you can hang stocking  by the chimney with care,  laugh a Frosty the Snowman and wait for Santa in his sleigh .  Do fur or spruce trees grow in LA?

People are always downing New York and New Yorkers, shame on them.  They do so, I think, out of jealousy.  New York is a marvelous mixture of cultures, ideas and habitats.  I’m a New Yorker born and raised.  Even though I have left my fair city home for a warmer climate it is still in me.  I am always told that I carry a distinctive NY accent when I speak.  I am often told that I dress like a New Yorker, we do have quite a bit of style you know, and that I don’t think or act like a southerner; I don’t. Continue reading I Love New York

August 20, 2010

I Feel So Dirty

Today, I got greedy, and went back for more. Oh, the feeling of sneaking into my browser at 5 a.m. when no one else’s up and looking. Knowing the rest of the world is asleep and you’re sitting there, in your footie pajamas, alone and all sneaky. I had to have one more peek. [...]

August 18, 2010

I’d Like to Thank The Academy…

We’re so focused on failure, that we never prepare ourselves for what to do when it finally works. Maybe that’s the reason some self-sabotage themselves before ever becoming successful. They never prepared themselves mentally for handling the situation when they finally hit it big. And mental preparation is needed for success. Just ask those folks who are busy being successful. But they probably won’t have time to return your call. [...]

August 16, 2010

Come September

Dedicated to the Memory of  N. “Cricket” Holland, Kenneth R. Drew and The Victims of 9/11

In a little less than a month I will meet the 4th anniversary of my youngest son’s death. I don’t look forward to September. It has never been one of my favorite months. In September I become melancholy.  I lost my youngest child in September.  I also lost my father, the very same year, one week to the day, after my child’s transition.   September is also the month in which I and so many other Americans lost our innocence, so to speak.

I must not be alone in my feelings about September. There are several American icons that reference the sadness of September. James Anderson wrote lyrics to September Song for  Knickerbocker Holiday, a 1939 musical by Kurt Weill.   September Song is a beautiful song and one of my many favorites, it is a poignant song. Continue reading Come September

August 15, 2010

Tales from the CriBt.

Steampunk followers of the genre's sub-culture
I had a killer audition today.

At 11:00 a.m., I called Nathan and told him I wasn’t there yet–that I would be a little late.  He assured me it would be okay.  But I felt like crap about it.

I met him at a huge warehouse that used to be a local department store, with its windows blackened.  His was the only vehicle in the parking lot, which made me a little nervous, but never-the-less, I went in anyway.

I began by filling out some paperwork, and then we talked for probably an hour.  He was happy to share his concept with me. Continue reading Tales from the CriBt.

August 12, 2010

“Oh! You’re a writer! How exciting. You know, I’ve always wanted to write a book.”

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…I just haven’t had time / didn’t have the willpower or concentration / didn’t think it’d be any good / didn’t know what to write” …


It’s funny, the evolution of a writer. I started writing five years ago, and people kind of smiled and said things like “Oh, that’s nice.” And when I started asking people if they’d like to read it, they usually would make a kind excuse or suggest they didn’t read that genre, whatever it was. I wasn’t offended. That’s how I would have been.

But there were a few who bravely agreed to read what I’d done, and they were apparently * ahem * impressed. I told them I wanted to get better, so would they please tell me what they didn’t like as well as what they liked. They asked me questions about what I’d written, found errors, questioned impossible plotlines … and I surprised myself by being defensive and somewhat belligerent. This was my baby! How could they possibly find anything wrong with it? I folded my arms over my chest, huffed, and continued along the same line, determined to make it work. Continue reading “Oh! You’re a writer! How exciting. You know, I’ve always wanted to write a book.”

August 12, 2010

Worth The Wait

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I read a neat blog article somewhere today about … waiting.

It talked about how a writer spends their days … waiting. They wait for inspiration, they wait for responses from agencies and publishers, they wait for feedback … from anyone.

All painfully true.

But it’s not just writers. It’s people in general. We wait for the bus. We wait for the paycheque (or should), then wait in line to spend it. We wait for the kids to finish swimming lessons. Wait wait wait. Glancing at my watch or calendar, tapping my toes, hurrying so I can wait some more.

But waiting, and thinking about waiting is a waste of time. You can’t control time. But … you can take control of your time. Continue reading Worth The Wait

August 11, 2010

The Tool Box of Life

This begs an urgent question: Do we control our thoughts and feelings or do they control us? In effect, are we victims to the synaptic firings and hormone-driven changes of affect; or do we create them to serve our needs? Who is the master — and who is servant? [...]

August 9, 2010

How to Market your Talent if you Cross-Pollinate (some practical guidelines)

This week has been *very* busy for me. The publishing world (I promise, this ties
into acting and other arts.) has changed very quickly with wi-fi books; i.e., Nook, Kindle,
app readers for smart phones, and so now not only is an author faced with
writing on his next upcoming release, but he’s also shouldered the
responsibility for the marketing, publicity, the advertising, and it takes a
lot…of…work. My days with Lupus and Fibromyalgia, are at least
16-hours, all of it writing: my upcoming novel release in the fall, my
blog, and I’m also now contributing author at several sites.

If you create it, they will come. Continue reading How to Market your Talent if you Cross-Pollinate (some practical guidelines)

August 7, 2010

I should’ve been the one to paint the Sistine Chapel

I’d like to think it was because at that moment in time, she didn’t see little old me from the dairy farm with no money–she saw Carla René, the brilliant, undiscovered painter who should’ve been the one to paint the Sistine Chapel instead of that deadbeat, Michelangelo. [...]

August 6, 2010

Disclipline is a Bitch

Once or twice this week I was able to sneak under Discipline’s radar. I got a lot done! I rent a room in my landlady’s home, so while she’s been on vacation this week, I have been keeper-of-the-canine, and with him being a German Shepard/Husky mix, he’s required a lot of my attention. I’ve also cooked a few good meals for myself, and came up with “DJ Squeak,” her cat’s new rap name. So you see, it wasn’t all fun and games. But, discipline always finds me and drags me back. [...]

August 3, 2010

A list of crap I no longer wish to hear about

I like background noise.  It allows me to separate my thoughts.  Occasionally, I find it a distraction, but most of the time it is just noise.  The presence of the sound is somehow transformative.  It sustainably enables me to marshal my thoughts and execute whatever it is I am doing, or it allows me to sleep despite any of the din outside.  The volume matters sometimes.  A loud television or stereo is interesting when you concentrate on it with interest.  However, when you are no longer interested, they become a distraction… sort of like people in life sometimes.  But, in both cases you will find that you can tolerate either, very well, if the volume has been reduced a good bit.  We have all had that conversation.  You’re really listening to someone, intent to hear what they are saying.  When they hit a few sour notes, your attitude has changed, and you start to hear “blah blah woof woof……blah blah”.  Continue reading A list of crap I no longer wish to hear about

August 2, 2010

Sponsor

“Could you talk to him?” she says.

“About what?”

“About how you stopped.” She’s talking about my drinking. I’ve been sober 28 years and she’d like me to give her boyfriend advice on how to beat this thing. I don’t like him much. He’s what I am, what I used to be. He’s weak and stupid and manipulative and it would be so easy for me to ruin this thing for him. I’m jealous because she loves him and she should love me. “Sure,” I say, “I’ll give him a call.”

So here I am, listening to this guy try to pull the crap on me that I pulled on people for years. Alcoholics always try to get you to talk about yourself so that the focus is off of them. “So, what do you do down there, at work?”

“This isn’t about me, it’s about you.” Continue reading Sponsor

August 2, 2010

A new author with an imaginary day-job needs fans to mock her!

I will not puff myself up (except for the lie about implants) to make me seem better than I am. Merely looking at me will convince you of this. So I won’t lie and say I’m not a fresh, new face on the publishing scene. I am. Have you seen my skin?? The real point being, I’m just starting out on this self-publication journey, and instead of blogging ad nauseum about toxic waist (Pun intended), or deforestation, or even the recession, I’ve decided that I’d like to share my pure and raw experiences, both good and hideously disfiguring disappointments, in the blog. I mean, what good am I to keep around if you can’t truly mock me? [...]

August 2, 2010

My First Book Party

Sister’s Uptown Bookstore is a small shop on Amsterdam Avenue and 156th St. in the heart of Harlem. Yet there are people who have never been there. There are people in the neighborhood who do not even know of its ten year existance. I was glad that I could bring this wonderful place to [...]

July 25, 2010

River separates life from death

River separates life from death

by Tyree Harris

The following is part two of a three-part series. See part one here.

With faint screams and smoke coming from the forests and villages surrounding, Simon Mudahogora, his sister, and his friend’s family all loaded up into a canoe, which had to be sunk to hide from the Hutu. They were heading to a refugee camp in Burundi, where many other Tutsi fled.

The border between Burundi and Rwanda was marked by a river — a river so dirtied with death that they had to move carcasses out of the canoe’s way to get across the river.

Simon knew he had to stay tough: “There was no crying.”

Crossing into Burundi, however, didn’t mean safety. The group then had to travel through two hours of swamplands, where the Hutu were often hiding and killing fleeing Tutsi. The thick vegetation and knee-high mud trenched and brushed across their fear-riddled bodies. Continue reading River separates life from death

July 25, 2010

Leaving family, genocide behind

Leaving family, genocide behind

 

by Tyree Harris

“Everybody got along,” said Simon Mudahogora, describing the Rwandan village he grew up in, “It was a poor and peaceful life.” The 26-year-old economics major’s hometown included about 60 of his family members.

Daily life was as simple as it gets: Simon and the other children in his family woke up at 6:30 a.m. and walked a mile to the river to fetch some water for the day. He’d get back, take a cold shower, have his morning tea and bread, and arrive to school at 8:30 ready for class.

For hours, young Simon sat on bench made of dirt, in a room stuffed with 35 students. His family farmed while he was at school.

“That’s the only life I lived. I had no complaints at all,” he said.

In the evening, when the blistering sun cooled down, all the kids got together for a game of soccer — with a slight catch. Continue reading Leaving family, genocide behind

July 23, 2010

Wasting Time

I arose from my tent early and found a mess left in the camp.  The raccoons had found the cooler.  They discovered that our breakfast of eggs could be found inside.  Little hand prints were left as evidence of the burglary.  The broken egg shells and disarray were not enough.  The little marks noted their presence and also their prescience.  They had no doubt watched us putting things away, or just somehow knew that they could find goodies in that box.   I clean up then go about just sitting alone in my woodsy campsite.  The kids are still sleeping, and so are the rest of the adults.  You would think that I would be lonely without the company, but I am not.  The breeze blows by my ears, my hair gently moving.  The chirping of birds and bubbling of running water are comforting; downright relaxing.  It seems that you see so much more when you take the time to just sit, put away your generated thought, and watch the world go by you.  There are so many insects.  Normally, I wouldn’t want them around, but they don’t seem to bother me so much today.  Except for the flies, none are “on” me.  On a boulder in the distance, I see a cardinal.  It flits between rocks and gravel, in search of its’ daily sustenance.  The red bird seems oblivious to anything not crawling on or under the dirt.  He has identified his area of interest and actively pursues his objective.  A few little pecks at the soil, and he flies into a nearby branch.  It becomes obvious that he achieved his goal, a little breakfast du jour.  Maybe a snack of flies would appeal to him?  I suspect that he won’t get that close to me.  At least he has had breakfast… Continue reading Wasting Time

July 21, 2010

Healing Dose of Happiness

So I’m sitting here in Spicewood Texas at a nice little place.  There are plenty of trees, and a magnificent natural swimming hole with waterfalls and springs.  My boss was calling and I didn’t want to talk to him, so I didn’t.  I emailed him instead.  It was a pretty lousy thing to do, but this is my once a year visit with my family, and it is only for a few days.  I love my job, and will go back to working my six or seven days a week soon enough.  There comes a time when you just have to decide what is most important to you.  I chose to enjoy my family.  I’ll deal with the consequences later.  I did leave a few hours early, but I had tended to the needs of the company.  If I had just said nothing, I would have been better off.  I could still do the job by phone, and enjoy the time.  My absence would hardly go noticed.

               So why am I sitting here writing about it?  Because this is a pleasure!  I am surrounded by my loved ones, in a marvelous natural environment, and just enjoying some personal thoughts.  I am sharing a few with you now… because I want to! Continue reading Healing Dose of Happiness

July 16, 2010

Farmer Judd

Farmer Judd

by Bob Grant

Farmer Judd worked in the mud to keep his garden pure,

Don’t mix or match, you’ll surely catch, disease he was for sure.

Sam the Slug worked in his mud but with a different mind,

For what he saw – there was no flaw – for Sam the Slug [...]

July 12, 2010

The Rocking Man

He sits there most afternoons before it gets too hot. He sits and rocks with his head forward eyes glazed looking at something the rest of us cannot see. His black hair is always shiny, his beard combed with a touch of gray. Each day brings a change of clothes that are worn and a bit ragged, faded with food stains and sweat but if you pass him there is no odor of poverty, no odor of muck or filth. He is mentally disturbed and disturbing no one as he sits and rocks on my neighbors steps. Continue reading The Rocking Man

July 12, 2010

My daughter’s wedding

Stephen Sangirardi               My daughter’s wedding              Bard715@aol.com
 
  The day of my daughter’s wedding: there’s quite a difference between the rehearsal dinner and the actual wedding. My God! Early in the morning I broke a plate in the sink. I was nervous. My wife and daughter saw that and were a bit shocked, and I think they became calmer themselves when they saw my nerves. I have taught thirty-three years in the classroom, but never was I as jittery as I was that morning. I almost resorted to taking a shot of Scotch, but instead popped six magic pills. I will definitely say this for all future fathers who must marry off their daughters. Rehearsal was easy, the menu. The actual wedding was difficult, the meal. For openers there were so many people in the house that morning—the bridesmaids getting dressed—and so many pictures were taken in different combinations, the three photographers barking orders left and right. Then there was the crowd of people outside, including the neighbors, the relatives, and the limos. Continue reading My daughter’s wedding

July 11, 2010

Subway Story: No Conversation

In the summer I don’t work on Fridays. If I wake up early enough I still fall into the rush hour pattern and take the subway to parts of the city to do some shopping for home and self. I like the early morning since most people are going to work. New Yorkers tend to do half days work on Friday so by the time they are escaping the office I am already at home, sitting on the deck eating lunch and talking with my family.

So why would someone try to pick me up at 9:30 on a hot Friday morning? Hey it’s New York and I guess he felt he had to try. Continue reading Subway Story: No Conversation

July 10, 2010

with or without them

they’re all nuts

and they wanna drive us nuts

and they do,

some of us lose it bad

some of lose it good. Continue reading with or without them

July 1, 2010

I saw her there…

I saw her here,

I saw her there,

I saw her hair right down to there,

Her lips of wine,

Her scent divine,

God, I want to make her mine. Continue reading I saw her there…

July 1, 2010

Cycle of Love

skinny guy,

plump girl,

riding on a two stroke dirt bike.

he’s scruffy

and she’s….well…I can’t tell

because he’s given her the better helmet.

full face.

they dart through traffic Continue reading Cycle of Love

July 1, 2010

no love story

no love story

“Looking out the window on a gray day, I see two pigeons on the ledge of the old house across the street. One pigeon seems to be pecking at the other pigeon which sits cuddled by its side. Perhaps the one pigeon is being dear to the other pigeon, and I wish someone would be dear to me. Suddenly, the one pigeon that was doing the pecking bobbles away to the other side of the ledge, and eventually flies away. Perhaps they misunderstood each other. I wish someone understood me.”

There was a knock on the door. Jimmy Burns was sitting at a small table by the window. Ants crawled along the floor. “Maybe they’ll share something,” he thought. Jimmy could see footsteps through the crack under the door. There was a second knock. Jimmy sat silently still, only moving to lift the cigarette to his mouth.

“I know you’re in there you bastard, open the door!” came the voice from outside.

Jimmy didn’t budge. He was unemployed. Down. Out. Nowhere to go, nothing to do. Whoever it was knocking knew that. There was a third knock. Continue reading no love story

June 25, 2010

Decisions Made

Decisions Made

by Bob Grant

Which one is first – the left or right,

when shoes go on in morning’s light.

Socks the same before you start,

conclusions formed but just a part.

Pants come next for you to choose,

they have to match your socks and shoes.

Swipe that stick for six or [...]

June 25, 2010

THE WORLD’S BEST

Is anybody naive enough to really believe it? [...]

June 10, 2010

Afterlife

We’re all heading

to the same destination in this life.

We end up

on the mortician’s table,

bloody and bruised,

old and twisted,

pale, toothless and thin.

 

Some of us racing

to get there while others

just mosey along

admiring the scenery

and waiting their turn.

Continue reading Afterlife

June 10, 2010

Snakes and Wellies

This past weekend was beautiful down  in this part of  the  Carolinas. The sun was shinning and  plants are in full bloom. Even the crape myrtles  have begun to show off.

I’m an avid gardener. I love toiling in the soil, planting and waiting with eager anticipation for little seedlings emerge. Just about all of my life I’ve had a garden.  I learned to love gardens and gardening because of my grandmother who planted a garden every spring.  She always planted the same vegetables; yellow squash, waxed and green string beans, cabbage and turnip and collard greens. At the very back of her yard was a grape arbor that she cultivated and pampered so that in the fall she could make her delicious sweet wine. Her front yard, shaded by an enormous maple tree, was lush with shale loving  lily of the valley and variegated hosta plants. Her side yard boasted a variety of red, yellow and pink roses, blue hydrangea, snapdragons and a lilac.  My mother was also a gardener as are all three of my sisters and both of my children so, it’s in the blood. Continue reading Snakes and Wellies

June 8, 2010

The $5,000 Pancake

The $5,000 Pancake
 
 
Saturday a week ago I had a $5,000 blueberry pancake.  Actually, I had two of them.  They were just as delicious as the ones I had last fall.  All of them were courtesy of the Scaly Mountain Women’s Club.
 
Scaly Mountain is an unincorporated community just down the Dillard Road from us, about ten miles from the intersection of the North Carolina, South Carolina, and Georgia borders.  In the summer, Scaly Mountain swells to several thousand people.  In the winter, it shrinks to a few hundred.  But, there is never a shortage of fine people who willingly give their time, efforts and treasure for the benefit of others.
 
A lady whom we’ve met before, Kay Steele, was kind enough to tell us the history of the Women’s Club.  It began 22 years ago with just 14 members.  Now, it has grown to about 80 women.  This is the seventh year they have run their Pancake Breakfast at the Community Center (which used to be a church, and before that was a one-room school, but more about that later). Continue reading The $5,000 Pancake

May 31, 2010

Memorial Day Memories

Memorial Day Memories


By Alan Caruba

I have a few enduring Memorial Day memories. Most involve my Dad who never served in the military, being too young for the First World War and too old for the Second twenty years later.

Even so, there was never a Memorial Day in Maplewood, NJ when we did not go down to the park, also named Memorial, and watch the veterans, the police and fire units, the Boy and Girl Scouts, and the high school band march to the grassy area where town officials would give speeches about the fallen heroes. Little Maplewood had its share that had served in all of the nation’s wars. Continue reading Memorial Day Memories

May 27, 2010

U.S. problems rooted in poverty

U.S. problems rooted in poverty

by Tyree Harris

One of the greatest lessons I’ve ever learned was that if you really want to solve a problem, you must start at the origins of it. Rather than spending time wrestling with the effects of a bigger issue, one should focus on the source of hardship, and that will usually eliminate any resulting side issues.

Apparently, America skipped school the day that lesson was taught.

We live in a nation with high incarceration rates, high obesity rates, drug problems and questionable high school curriculums. America has dedicated countless funds, bills and infomercials to ending all these issues, but the problems seem to be going nowhere.

Why? Because they are just the results of something larger: poverty.

Poverty brews mis-education

Raggedy books. Prison-style windows. Unheated buildings. Teachers more concerned with discipline than academics. All of these are common sights in America’s inner-city schools. Because these areas are low-income, with not as much tax money and neighborhood support going to their schools, they often have outdated books and a piteous curriculum with limited advanced placement courses, little emphasis on higher education and overfilled classes. Continue reading U.S. problems rooted in poverty

May 18, 2010

Empathy

Stephen Sangirardi     Empathy    Bard715@aol.com       By the way, what is empathy? I’ll tell you what is, and keep it locked in your cranium! You walk into a small men’s room at some public place, and noticing that the one stall door is closed, you rightly conclude that someone is squatting on the bowl, [...]

May 18, 2010

Shaped, Shifted, and Well-Picked

Shaped, Shifted, and Well-Picked

by Tyree Harris

Growing up, my mother never let my hair grow out. I’d run around, bald scalp glistening from all the hair grease, never really understanding why I just couldn’t let my hair streak down in glorified rows like Allen Iverson’s. For whatever reason, my mom fancied sitting me down in a chair, setting the clippers on the lowest blade and hacking away at my poor little baby curls until I looked like the shiniest Milk Dud in the box.

Nothing was worse than hearing that loud “TYREEEEEEEE, COME HERE!!!” with the faint buzzing of hair clippers in the background.

Thus, I resented baldness. Spending nearly all of my early life with a naked scalp grew tiresome. I wanted to let my hair grow free! I wanted to spend endless time shaping, shifting and altering my hair! Hell, I even wanted to have bad hair days where people would look at me like I was crazy. But all of that was stripped from me, at the hands of a clipper-wielding mother with a fixation on shiny craniums.

My sophomore year in high school, however, my streak of baldness ended when I grew my hair out for the first time.

“Take that, Mom,” I thought to myself. Continue reading Shaped, Shifted, and Well-Picked

May 18, 2010

Somebody’s Watching You

It used to be that New York was open 24/7/365. But the years have worn the Big Apple to the core and somethings that were once popular to do have changed and gone the way of the dodo. You can still find someplace to find a bite to eat at 4am but the pickings are getting slimmer. Doors at clubs and eateries are watched to keep out undesirables. Some places are so afraid of problems they close early. And while the city boosts a rich cultural diversity there is always the problem that big brother is watching you. We still live in an age of profiling those who are different. Continue reading Somebody’s Watching You

May 17, 2010

Girlfriends

Mara Brock Akil created the UPN television series Girlfriends staring Jill Marie Jones, Persia White, Tracee Ellis Ross and Golden Brooks. It was a sitcom centered on the lives of four women and their friendship, their girl-friendship.

One of my dearest friends I met in college, we were roommates. We lost touch and for 25 years we went about our lives out of touch but not out of heart or mind. One day last year she found me. We’d matured and changed somewhat but the core was in tact. What ever made us bond back then was still alive and active.

I have a beautiful circle of girlfriends, some of them have been my friends since before grade school, some have been in my life since high school and some became my friends more recently. There aren’t that may of them but they are all tried and true. My childhood friends don’t live nearby anymore. After high school we drifted apart moving to different states or parts of town. We went off to college, married, raised our children, some of us got divorced and remarried but some how we managed to keep in touch. Continue reading Girlfriends

May 14, 2010

It's Just Little Girls Dancing- But There's the Rub

I am about to be practical, historical and honest. All in the same post. I am really sick of hearing about the 8 and 9 year old girls clad in skimpy costumes dancing to Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”. It has made the news, the polls, Youtube and things that make you go umm. Let’s be honest, it is just dancing and good dancing at that. But if it wasn’t for the advances we have in communications, law enforcement, the study of the mind and racism we wouldn’t be so concerned about little girls dancing in something a bit more than bathing suits. Continue reading It’s Just Little Girls Dancing- But There’s the Rub

May 14, 2010

Arizona-Land of the Free

Amazing how many high government officals (including the Attorney General), political pundits, politicians, school officials and religious leaders comment so harshly on the immigration law in Arizona and publicly admit they haven’t read the ten page document.

The document basically states that when being stopped for a traffic violation or questioned concerning a crime that [...]

May 14, 2010

When your friends can’t explain why they voted for Democrats, give them this

Pick Your Reason   10. I voted Democrat because I believe oil companies’ profits of 4% on a gallon of gas are obscene but the government taxing the same gallon of gas at 15% isn’t.

  9. I voted Democrat because I believe the government will do a better job of spending the [...]

May 12, 2010

High life shattered by addiction

 

High life shattered by addiction

by Tyree Harris

Jerret Hooey, 22, said he usually slept in until about 1 p.m., but on one night last October he awoke at 4 a.m. by an all too familiar aching: He was fiending for a high.

Hooey made his way to the bathroom with his mind set on heroin.

As his body demanded, he opened a bag of dope and put several little pieces onto tinfoil, lit it and smoked it using a hollow ink pen.

For now, his fixation was suppressed, but the relief was short-lived.

A loud banging on the door began — it was the FBI.

Hastily, Hooey sprinted to his clothes room and grabbed as much of his stash as he could.

If he didn’t get his stuff down the toilet — fast — he would be caught red-handed. Continue reading High life shattered by addiction

May 8, 2010

Burqa Mentality in the Blue Ridge

Burqa Mentality in the Blue Ridge

 

I read, and I write for, the Highlands Newspaper, a weekly paper with a modest circulation.  The Editor, also my editor, is Kim Lewicki.  She ran an article in last week’s issue that was excellently written and edited, and worthy of sharing with my national audience.

The week before, Erika Olvera, a former Police Officer in this town, filed an EEOC Complaint against the Town of Highlands.   Our experience with Officer Olvera was limited, but we found her to be diligent and capable.  She worked for the Town for two years.  She is a naturalized American from Mexico, who has lived in this area for about 20 years.

About six months after she was employed by the Police Department, a nasty rumor circulated that she had had an affair with Police Chief Bill Harrell.  (In a small town, everyone hears everything.)  I said at the time the rumor may have nothing to do with her, but may be an effort by one of the other officers to undermine the Chief.  Suffice to say, Bill Harrell is married. Continue reading Burqa Mentality in the Blue Ridge

May 4, 2010

Overdose claims relationship (part two)

Overdose claims relationship (part two)

by Tyree Harris

The following is the second part of a two-part series started in last week’s “In These Eyes.”

 

Cynthia Wick lies on her couch, crushed. No food in her system, no hope on her mind, no sleep in her near future. In fact, for Wick, the act of sleeping now means enduring horrible nightmares that wake her up every 30 minutes.

Since she lost her boyfriend of two years to an overdose, her life hasn’t been the same.

“I had no desire to do anything,” Wick said.

Wick doesn’t even sleep in her bedroom anymore — it reminds her too much of Devyn Lorett. Continue reading Overdose claims relationship (part two)

April 29, 2010

Up on the Roof with the Girls

This happened not quite 20 years ago. A Saturday afternoon that turned into a Sunday morning when the girls got on the roof of a friends apartment building and enjoyed each others company for hours. My husband called at 2am to see when I wanted to come. I could have told him never I was so happy to be in the company of women my age, all of the artists of some kind and all of them taking out these hours to just be one of the girls. There was no competition, no showing off, no mean words. We weren’t all friends when we went on the roof but when we left we were united as sisters because of one story that was told when we decided to discuss “the first time”. Continue reading Up on the Roof with the Girls

April 27, 2010

Overdose claims relationship

Overdose claims relationship

By Tyree Harris

After a long afternoon playing board games and talking with 18-year-old Devyn Lorett, her boyfriend of more than two years, she decided it was best if she left his house. It was too difficult for her to be around him; they had been broken up for almost a month.

“I just wanted to tell him how much I missed him, how much I loved him, and that I didn’t want us to be apart anymore,” said Cynthia Wick, 18.

But as much as she wanted to say this, and as right as it felt, Wick knew she couldn’t be with him.

She met Lorett while trying out for a cheerleading squad her freshman year. At first sight, he told her she was beautiful, displayed clear interest and instantly pursued her. Initially, it was to no avail, but Lorett was determined. Though he couldn’t get her attention in person, he managed to track her number down through mutual friends and began texting her.

Wick was thrown off by his inexplicable perseverance. Continue reading Overdose claims relationship

April 21, 2010

Bring Out The Silver, Honey!

When I was in my early 20′s, my grandma Graham finally agreed to move to an old folks’ home, or whatever the term is. So she emptied her centuries-old apartment of anything even vaguely interesting. Much anticipated squabbling between family members ensued, and I ended up with some silver. I actually didn’t want any silver, but my parents encouraged me to buy it from her. Read that again: BUY silver forks and knives and all that from my Grandma, for $3000 of my own money. Seriously? Oh, yes, Genevieve. It’s a great investment.

What did I know about investment? I’d been saving up for a car, but okay. If they said so.

I ended up with two very nice, heavy boxes filled with any kind of silver serving utensil you could ever dream of. I even have an Angel Food Cake slicer. I can’t even identify some of them, actually. Sadly, one of my wooden handled salad spoons split, but when I reason that the spoon was probably close to 150 years old, I can’t really complain. Dwayne’ll glue it. He’s good like that.

He’s also good at practicality. When we moved out here, many extraneous things got packed into wherever. The two boxes of silver were tucked under the stairs. The other day, he came home and said we should break out the silver and start using it.

“But honey!” said I, aghast. “That’s for special occasions!”

“Which are happening … when?” he asked. Continue reading Bring Out The Silver, Honey!

April 19, 2010

Bus Story: Mean Blind Woman

She got on the regular passengers cringed for we had all been her victims before. This blind woman was angry, perhaps because she lost her sight. Maybe she was always that way: negative, angry, mad at the world of the seeing. But when this woman gets on the bus school children who usually are rude to everyone older move out of her way and old women who seem like gentle caring grandmothers curse under their breath. They know she can hear them and they don’t care. They want her to hear something of the havoc she is causing in a usually peaceful environment. But it is obvious she doesn’t care. It seems she is on the mission of misery loves company. Continue reading Bus Story: Mean Blind Woman

April 7, 2010

Learning from mistakes

It’s unrealistic to assume you won’t screw-up now and then, especially if you’re trying new things. So without mistakes, there is no reason for adjustment, which means we’re not learning anything; therefore nothing changes. So, one could say mistakes are actually step one in improving our life. [...]

April 6, 2010

STROKES SUCK

Several months ago I woke up feeling odd (not strange for me). Got out of bed, took the old good morning pee, moved down the hall following the smell of coffee and then had to grab a gaudy table halfway down the hall to keep from falling.  Not normal but what the hell. I [...]

April 5, 2010

Everybody is a Star!

I was asked what I did for a living. At the time I was in an off-off- Broadway show on The Ridiculous Theatrical Company. The theatre had a following in the gay world but was very popular in the theatrical circles. My picture and positive review made Theatre World Magazine and I got pats on the backs from actor friends. I was an actress. But when I replied to the what did I do for a living questions with “I’m an actress” I got: “Really? What movies have you been in? Are you some kind of star?” Continue reading Everybody is a Star!

April 2, 2010

Together- Forever

My husband is on the phone giving advice to a younger man about love and marriage. We are supposed to be going out together in two hours. It will certainly be three. He tells his friend:”Minnette and I are completely opposites. she does things zip, zip, zip and asks me why am I moving so slowly. But man, it works. We are together, in part, because opposites attract.” Continue reading Together- Forever

March 23, 2010

Moving On (an Ode to the College Student)

I think I am finally beginning to understand that this is not easy. Any of it. I been so busy scrambling for a hold on life that I’ve hardly had a chance to write. I was flicking through bits and pieces, trying to find something to inspire me to post for this website before Bob asked me to leave (thanks for your patience Bob!) and I came up with pretty much nothing. Well, not nothing perhaps, but not anything I thought would be worthy. Sometimes it’s so hard to believe that I will get anywhere worth being. And that’s the worst of it. I’m so hard on myself that I never get started. So. Here I am, pissed off and PMSing and taking it all out on my keyboard– along with whomsoever attempts to make sense of where I am going with this. If it’s going in the direction I feel like it’s headed, that would be nowhere. But simply here is somewhere, isn’t it? And if I can make up my mind and decide that that’s precisely where I want to be, then I’ll be content with my life and move on. But that’s the problem. I can’t seem to take that simple step forward. (And maybe I’ve been reading too much Lewis Carroll)

“‘Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’

‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat. Continue reading Moving On (an Ode to the College Student)

March 20, 2010

Feeding Starving People

Feeding Starving People
 
by John Armor 
 
Last Saturday, we did something that was only a small step up from mindless, unskilled labor. I’m glad we did it. We recommend it to everyone else.
 
An enthusiastic lady came to our Rotary meeting a week before. She was a teacher, acting as a volunteer for her church. She asked us to join with people from another half dozen other Rotary Clubs to pack 100,000 meals for starving people in Haiti. We decided it was a good cause, and we went.
 
There were two shifts requested at the National Guard Armory in the County Seat of Franklin, North Carolina. We arrived at 10:30 am, early for the second shift. A nice guy in a Rotary jacket gave us the good news that about a hundred extra volunteers had shown up for the first shift and there was not even room to park.
 
We came back in forty-five minutes, found a spot to park, and went in to sign up. We both got hairnets. (It was the first time in my life I’d worn a hairnet in public.) And we took our places at a table set up for five workers. There was a funnel in the middle of each table, with pre-printed plastic bags underneath. On the corners of the table were four containers: soy meal, vitamins, dried vegetables, and rice. Continue reading Feeding Starving People

March 17, 2010

It's difficult - until it isn't

What began as extremely unfussy and obtainable intention – eating better and moving more – has erupted into a full-scale mega-production requiring learning how to cook differently, shopping with new eyes, rearranging schedules, altering relationships, and devising self-inflicting intimidating goals. Building such blockades makes the procedure ridiculously difficult and horribly unpleasant. [...]

March 12, 2010

All for Art

Today I honor my mother, Jacqueline Rochester, who passed away in her sleep 30 days ago. It has been a sad time, sadder than I anticipated: in theory, I’ve always believed that crossing over is a good thing, a new life, and we who remain earthbound should celebrate the dear departed’s new journey. [Yes, I believe in an everlasting life, but not the religious version.] However, for all our differences and squabbles over the years, I miss my mom.

I spent nearly five days rambling around her big house alone, taking care of a lot of loose ends and minutiae that led me to see her home and her life in a way I never had. For many years, all we children felt her home was filled with too much “stuff.” Now I began to see how she had surrounded herself with art because, in truth, she saw her life and artistic expression as one. The paintings, pottery, jewelry, interior decoration – it was all, as the French say,  l’art pour l’art. She was all of, by and for art. She made a passionate decision when she and my father separated to devote herself to creating art and living the life of an artist, to be a complete embodiment of all means of artistic expression. And she did.

And while she disdained many things – you could fairly have called her a snob – she was also an incredible entrepreneur and businesswoman. She didn’t just paint or sculpt or design clothing and cards, she sold them. She made a handsome living at it, even though the galleries took fifty percent of a painting’s price as their cut. Continue reading All for Art

March 12, 2010

What We Can Find In Dreams

 The phone rings at 5am and I jump awake. The mother in me thinks something is wrong with one of my girls. The daughter in me is afraid my mother has gotten sick and is in the hospital. The sleepy person that I am wants to curse out whoever has tricked me out of peaceful slumber. Then I pick up the phone and realize there is no one there. There never was. It was a dream and someone was calling me. Continue reading What We Can Find In Dreams

March 10, 2010

The Future of History

I was never a history buff. I was the kid in high school who got caught napping instead of listening. “So?” I would ask. “Why does this matter?” Now my tweenage daughters ask the same question and I struggle to explain why.

“Because,” I say. And it’s not one of those “Because I said so’s”. It’s because now I “get it”.

I experienced my first taste of Scottish history a few years ago, when I devoured the “Outlander” series by author extraordinaire Diana Gabaldon. After I finished the books, I became lonely for rolling r’s and sword-wielding Highlanders. I wanted more. So I wrote my own book. In order to do that, I had to delve into a different rolling r: rrrrrresearch. Not my strongest asset. But I started digging. I took out every book the library carried on the subject and then, after major physiotherapy on my back, decided to surf the net. I googled historic websites and got in touch with the people who really know their stuff, the re-enactors. These people are often obsessive about their craft, and were the absolute best sources for research. I was lectured ad nauseum about sword lengths and hilts. About garrons vs horses. I was laughed at for my pre-conceived notions. And from those often borderline abusive comments grew my understanding and love of history.

I joined the Calgary Highland Games committee with the purpose of listening to Scottish brogues so I could incorporate them into my book. I listened to the pipes, learned about the dances and tried not to hyperventilate over the Heavy Events athletes. I watched Scottish actors (obsessively, some might say) and wore out my cd player listening to Celtic music. I gleaned information on my ancestral clans of Graham and Ferguson, imagining what life might have been like. Continue reading The Future of History

March 10, 2010

Vacation Lists

My family and I just returned from a fantastic holiday. As soon as I got home I started looking for my countless lists of Things To Do. But that inevitably lead to Things to Avoid. So I have decided to compile lists of Things on Vacation. WAY more fun, and, I am sure, very educational. [...]

March 5, 2010

Street Story: How We Look at Others

While walking home in the cold winter wind, I felt a different kind of chill crawl up my spine. Daylight savings time was still on us and that made rush hour all headlights, street lamps and dark corners. I tried to tell myself I was just cold but the man coming my way raised a few flags and the first one was fear. Continue reading Street Story: How We Look at Others

March 4, 2010

Priceless Reminders

           I’m a pretty sentimental person.  For instance, I have saved every single letter and card my husband has ever given me over our 27-year relationship.  That’s quite a substantial bit of correspondence considering that for most of that first year, we lived 900 miles apart, and I received an average of five pieces of mail from him each and every week.  To anyone else it’s just a big box of papers taking up space in my closet.  To me, they represent concrete expressions of my husband’s love for me.  Nothing could persuade me to part with them.

            Anyone with children is likely to have a collection of treasures similar to mine.  Assorted dollar store treasures, gumball charms, dandelions and daisies offered “to the best mom,” rocks, feathers, stickers and handmade cards, poetry and pictures that neither Donald Trump nor Bill Gates could offer enough to induce me to sell.  They are tangible expressions of my children’s love for me.  The droopiest, saddest looking weed offered ever so lovingly by your five-year-old is a treasure more precious than the most perfect diamond.  It is a token of the purity and fervency of that love only a mother and child are privileged to share.  Every time you look at that treasure, it fills you with the warmth of that love all over again.  That is truly priceless.  Every one of these precious offerings has touched my heart and enabled me to see what is truly exceptional in the midst of the mundane. Continue reading Priceless Reminders

March 4, 2010

An African Love Story: When Love came calling (Part One)

She noticed him staring at her through the window. Uncomfortably, she shifted. First on one foot, then the other, as she dizzyingly became aware of his intense scrutiny. Boss lady was coming any time soon and if she found this stranger staring at her through her precious shop windows, she would throw a fit. Suddenly angry at the brazen look this man was giving her, she turned to give him a reproachful glance of her own and mouthed the words “Rude. Rude to stare.” The man only smiled in return, a self –assured grin that maddened her only more. She saw him shrug nonchalantly and before she could take her next breath, realized that he was coming into the shop…heading straight for her. She stiffened.
“Come over here.” She suddenly heard Boss-lady scream at her from somewhere in the midst of the stacked boxes that lay by the corner.
“Yes ma.” She replied with alacrity, her reverie broken by the commanding tone of her Boss.
“Why do you never listen, Anwasia?” the fat lady bellowed at her employee, her jowls shaking with violence, which really was her normal look any given day.
“Yes ma.” The other one replied questioningly.
Boss-lady hissed in derision. “I keep telling you not to stack these boxes here. But do you listen? No. You don’t listen. You must stand there, by the counter, dreaming away your life. Other girls your age are getting married, but for you, no. You are lost in your own world. You are a disgrace, I tell you. A huge disgrace.”
“Yes ma.” She replied unfeelingly. This was the order of the day: Boss lady telling her how she was nothing but a no-good.
“Carry them boxes over there, stupid girl.” Continue reading An African Love Story: When Love came calling (Part One)

March 2, 2010

Western perspective is not culture

Western perspective is not culture

by Tyree Harris

Sitting in my race, class and ethnic groups course, twiddling my thumbs and trying to follow my professor, I couldn’t help but feel disconnected. There he went, speaking of tolerance, what it means to be prejudiced and how it’s easy to stereotype other races — but this is probably the 300th time I’ve heard this lecture from a cultural class, and it seems to be the only message they have to offer.

At times, I feel more like a subject of discussion than a student acquiring knowledge — everything seems to be directed toward accepting people like myself and becoming “tolerant,” but nothing goes toward the problems facing people of color and how they can fix them, because our structure only identifies with a Caucasian, Western perspective.

At the University and many colleges, the overemphasis of this perspective is a disservice to students of color. There are a lot of things in the majority perspective in which an ethnic minority cannot identify with, thus creating a totally different and unfair expectation of them: They are to identify with Caucasians and learn to walk in their shoes, while Caucasian students enjoy the safety and comfort of their own perspective while battling through their social problems. Continue reading Western perspective is not culture

February 28, 2010

Unhappiness and women - the equation doesn't add up

“No matter how objective you want, or try, to be, every issue you see will be subjective. You carry with you all that has made you the person you are, your gender included.”

So said the professor in my journalism class back at university. In other words, what and who you are will influence how you view a situation.

So it is with happiness, a topic which is much in the news now. With his two articles on women’s diminishing happiness in the Huffington Post, Marcus Buckingham has created quite a stir. The media have done articles on what he has written and spoken about it on the news. Two of my colleagues have also written articles on it. Happiness or the lack thereof is in the air.

And while I feel that any discussion about changing a person’s life from negative to positive, (male or female), is conducive to attaining happiness, with all due to respect to Mr. Buckingham, I think he’s coming at it strictly from a male’s point of view. That point of view is slightly skewed to who and what they are and it isn’t female. Ask any woman how she views life and how her male partner views it and you will come up with some very different ideas and attitudes about happiness. It has nothing to do with intelligence and being practical and everything to do with viewpoint. Continue reading Unhappiness and women – the equation doesn’t add up

February 27, 2010

China Impression (Chapter Two: Chinese New Year)

China Impression

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Chapter Two: Chinese New Year

Now, more and more people, especially young people celebrate Christmas Day.Nevertheless,we still take the Chinese New Year as our major and overwhelming Holiday which we call the Spring Festival. Like the Christmas Season, we have a long Chinese New Year Season, typically the government approve a legal vacation of 3 days since the New Year’s Eve till January the 2nd according to the Chinese lunar calendar. But usually we combine the 2 weekends together and have 7 days off. In fact, traditionally,the season ends till 15th of January, the Chinese Lantern Festival, though people begin to work after the 7th day.

I would like to give you some amazings:

It is amazing that over a billion people watch the same TV program at the same time, the Chiese New Year Eve. That is the special Spring Festival Celebrating Variety Show,begins from 8 pm. till after midnight bell ring, including singing, dancing, humor talk shows & short play etc. Continue reading China Impression (Chapter Two: Chinese New Year)

February 25, 2010

‘I Was in the First Wave.’

‘I Was in the First Wave.’
 
by John Armor 
 
I was at breakfast on Sunday morning at the Sheraton National, in Arlington, Virginia.  I was attending a conference elsewhere, but could only find space in Virginia.  Also at my hotel were the members of the Iwo Jima Association.
 
That Association was for survivors of that battle, and for the families of those who did not survive.  At the table next to me were two, older gentleman.  The younger man was in his 60′s.  He mentioned at one point where his father was buried at Arlington Cemetery, just a few blocks away.  Then the older man, somewhere in his 90′s said a simple statement that will follow me to the end of my days.
 
“I was in the first wave,” he said in a soft voice with little hint of any emotion.  As he continued, he described how they were taking fire from enemy who were hidden in holes at all points of the compass.
 
I have seen many war movies.  The first one to come to grips with the reality — which I got from books, and from talking to people who were there — was “Saving Private Ryan.”  That movie showed what this elderly man, sitting a few feet away, experienced, 65 years ago this month. Continue reading ‘I Was in the First Wave.’

February 24, 2010

Universal Suffering

Stephen Sangirardi    Universal Suffering     Bard715@aol.com
 
   Last night for the tenth time I watched Schindler’s List, arguably the most important film ever made. There is that incredibly poignant scene at the end when ‘Herr Direktor,’ played by Liam Neeson, is presented the ring of life with the inscription from the Talmud etched inside. “He who saves one life saves the world entire.” The Direktor breaks down because he feels he didn’t do enough to save more people, when as it is he has saved a thousand Jews from the gas chambers. He laments all the money he had squandered on fancy suits and fast cars and frivolous evenings. There is that special music playing in the background to accompany his fall to the ground. Ben Kingsley and the other Jews assure Oskar Schindler as he cries that he did so much, so much to save the people come to honor him at that moment at the end of the war. The point of that scene, which I had showed over the years to a number of classes, could not be clearer: no matter how good you are, no matter how much you do for other people, you could have always done more and done better. No one can be content when the inventory is taken about how serviceable he or she was to other human beings. You can never do enough. It’s not the shots you made or the students you reached; it’s the shots you didn’t make and the students you didn’t reach, the nights when you didn‘t feel like talking to that depressed friend on the phone or in person. There is always reason for humility when it comes to our service to humanity. No one ever does enough. Something tells me that Jesus felt the same way when he hung on the cross. Continue reading Universal Suffering

February 22, 2010

Me and My Bully: A Kind of Essay (continued)

Me and My Bully: A Kind of Essay (continued)

 

            Before I continue on with this little narrative, I need to address something that was stated in one of the replies to this post, something I read and I did not digest too well.  Someone stated that [I] should somehow befriend my bully….  That person obviously misses the whole point of this “essay” and, certainly, misunderstands me, the writer and target of the bully. 

I AM NOT INTERESTED IN BEING FRIENDS WITH FUCKING BULLIES!  I WANT TO SEE THEM ALL ROUNDED UP, LOCKED INSIDE THE SAME BUILDING THAT EVENTUALLY GETS TARGETED BY TERRORISTS FLYING A JET AIRPLANE INTO IT!

            Now, back to my narrative.

            I had two (2) earlier bullies while working for the State.  One of those earlier bullies even had one of those deformed hands, the kind that did not fully develop, with maybe two good digits and a thumb, but this did not prevent him, that one was a male, from being a real prick and just evil and spiteful.  So, this is why I don’t hold to the notion that bullies are the way they are because they were picked on and bullied by others…, blah, blah, blah.  We all could or should be bullies depending on what childhood illnesses we may have had or the way we were reared or because of other bullies we encountered along the way.  My next bully, the one who made the ‘…clean up so-and-so’s cubicle remark, retired shortly afterwards and was reported to have been diagnosed with cancer.  Good for her.  And she was a bully…, what…because she had cancer?  She may have gotten the cancer because she was an evil prick.  I’m just saying. Continue reading Me and My Bully: A Kind of Essay (continued)

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