August 24, 2010

The Gaslight Journal is Done

Begun back sometime in 2001, this book was originally a fluke of an idea… [...]

August 21, 2010

An Invitation to Writers (All Countries/All Languages)

Our site has viewers from all over the world.  As I have in the past – I invite all writers, from all countries and languages, to become contributors to our site.  It does not matter where you reside – or in what language you want to use to communicate – our purpose for having [...]

August 12, 2010

“Oh! You’re a writer! How exciting. You know, I’ve always wanted to write a book.”

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…I just haven’t had time / didn’t have the willpower or concentration / didn’t think it’d be any good / didn’t know what to write” …


It’s funny, the evolution of a writer. I started writing five years ago, and people kind of smiled and said things like “Oh, that’s nice.” And when I started asking people if they’d like to read it, they usually would make a kind excuse or suggest they didn’t read that genre, whatever it was. I wasn’t offended. That’s how I would have been.

But there were a few who bravely agreed to read what I’d done, and they were apparently * ahem * impressed. I told them I wanted to get better, so would they please tell me what they didn’t like as well as what they liked. They asked me questions about what I’d written, found errors, questioned impossible plotlines … and I surprised myself by being defensive and somewhat belligerent. This was my baby! How could they possibly find anything wrong with it? I folded my arms over my chest, huffed, and continued along the same line, determined to make it work. Continue reading “Oh! You’re a writer! How exciting. You know, I’ve always wanted to write a book.”

July 15, 2010

The Little Site

The Little Site

by Bob Grant

The Little Site that thought they could,

went online to do some good.

Started out with ups and downs,

got some smiles – got some frowns.

Writers came and writers went,

Some to speak and some to vent.

Limits none on what to post,

Theory was we’d get [...]

June 25, 2010

Mistakes of the Heart

Yesterday I ended up dispensing some advice to a young man thinking about getting married. I told him something that I had learned over the years that rings true in our society: men marry women and want them to stay the same; women marry men and try to change them. He had heard that before but hadn’t paid attention to it but the woman he loves suddenly has started acting, as he put it, funny. A beautiful woman if you ever looked at her you probably would never get to see the insecurity that comes with wanting to be married at a certain age to the man of your dreams. A man who has decided that he may not want to marry you because you are jealous and you have a different plan for the future. 

 Most of the mistakes people make in trying to mate with each other are obvious. The heart wants what it wants and that leads to all sort of mistakes of the heart. Continue reading Mistakes of the Heart

May 17, 2010

Too Much News, Too Much War

Many Saturdays as a young girl I was given the reward of spending the afternoon with my dad at the paper where he was the city editor. It was more than the joy of getting away from younger siblings and the chores being the oldest brought me. It was a place that I got to get the news before anyone else. Before the national news made the paper it came through on the Associated Press machine, a ticking time-bomb in my dad’s office that printed out the news in a flash. I would go there and sit with a pile of paper in my lap that covered everything that was happening in the world. Sometimes I couldn’t believe all the things that were happening, and weren’t getting reported on in a daily black newspaper. In fact sometimes things weren’t reported in any of the local papers at all. It was as if keeping the public in the dark about some news was the best way to keep the country focused on national issues of importance.

Today we have our own buttons to leaking news with computers, instant news and messaging and cell phones that will alert you when a celebrity has a baby or when a celebrity takes a drink. It is news faster than the old AP machines could peck out. It’s too much news that brings us so much information. And a lot of that information is about war. Continue reading Too Much News, Too Much War

May 16, 2010

The Electronic Conscience

The Electronic Conscience
 
by John Armor 
 
What is the impact of the current forms of gathering and transmitting information from person to person?  Can people be affected by communications they don’t use, or even know how to use?
 
There were five of us around a table in church this morning.  All of us used the internet at least somewhat.  Most of us did not use Twitter, Facebook, or YouTube.  Our uses of the photo and video capacities of this generation of cell phones, fell someplace in the middle.  But with some thought, the answer was clear.  Whether or not we use these means of communication, they do affect us,
 
I grew up in a small town, Salisbury, Maryland.  The town was small enough, and everybody knew everybody else’s children enough, that when you did something wrong, folks would tell on you.  Odds are your mother would know about it before you even got home to tell your side of the story.  Continue reading The Electronic Conscience

May 14, 2010

It's Just Little Girls Dancing- But There's the Rub

I am about to be practical, historical and honest. All in the same post. I am really sick of hearing about the 8 and 9 year old girls clad in skimpy costumes dancing to Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”. It has made the news, the polls, Youtube and things that make you go umm. Let’s be honest, it is just dancing and good dancing at that. But if it wasn’t for the advances we have in communications, law enforcement, the study of the mind and racism we wouldn’t be so concerned about little girls dancing in something a bit more than bathing suits. Continue reading It’s Just Little Girls Dancing- But There’s the Rub

May 14, 2010

Arizona-Land of the Free

Amazing how many high government officals (including the Attorney General), political pundits, politicians, school officials and religious leaders comment so harshly on the immigration law in Arizona and publicly admit they haven’t read the ten page document.

The document basically states that when being stopped for a traffic violation or questioned concerning a crime that [...]

May 14, 2010

When your friends can’t explain why they voted for Democrats, give them this

Pick Your Reason   10. I voted Democrat because I believe oil companies’ profits of 4% on a gallon of gas are obscene but the government taxing the same gallon of gas at 15% isn’t.

  9. I voted Democrat because I believe the government will do a better job of spending the [...]

April 26, 2010

Didn't that use to be a bookshop?

Once upon a time in a time and space far distant from our own, I used to work for 3M, a company famed far and wide for its innovation.

Inside 3M we were far less convinced of 3M’s innovative capabilities than seemingly those who had read the publicity, but it was clear that 3M in its first 75 years had been ground-breaking, commercialising one landmark innovation after the other in a relentless, if never smooth, sequence.

The insight that 3M had from around 1920 was that all landmark innovation is not a risk, but a gamble. The chances of success cannot be calculated. However, there is a formula which 3M used. Identify a whole bunch of crazies, fire them up, tell them to break every rule, and taunt them with the idea that their obsessively cherished baby of an invention will never, ever be born unless they go through hell and back again.

That really gets the manic juices going.

The truth is, though, that while a small-to-medium sized company can handle a bunch of out-and-out whackos, it is untenable for a massive mega-corporation to do the same with 70,000 employees, which is why those sorts of companies nearly always buy in landmark innovations from elsewhere. Continue reading Didn’t that use to be a bookshop?

April 26, 2010

Who are your ghosts, and why are they there?

Back in ancient Rome, the Emperor typically had one thought that troubled him more than any other – “Who guards you against your own guards?”, referring to the Imperial Praetorian guards, who either made you or croaked you, according to whim and political calculation (“Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?”).

As authors who ghost write the lives of fictional characters, and the occasional real one, the question that betimes intrigues and troubles us is a matching one: “Who ghost writes for the ghost writers?”

One answer, of course, might be your editor. Some editors have defined the very essence of their clients’ styles. I cannot remember whether it was Raymond Carver or Raymond Chandler whose characteristically terse delivery was largely attributable to the preferences of his editor. It is undeniable, but rarely confessed, that some editors end up rewriting their authors’ books.

My first influence was Lawrence Durrell. Although I wouldn’t claim that he is among my favourite authors, his ‘Alexandrine Quartet’ is right at the top of my favourite books. I could never copy the opulent, sensuous prose style he shared with John Fowles and Truman Capote, but I loved the way that he told the same story from three different angles and then developed it further in the fourth. There is nothing more fascinating than turning characters and storylines inside-out and upside-down in successive books. Continue reading Who are your ghosts, and why are they there?

April 7, 2010

Amid healthcare triumph, a reminder of Democrats' losing ways

Republicans were for healthcare insurance mandates before they were against them – and the Obama White House missed it. [...]

March 25, 2010

No Comment

We have posters who enjoy the repartee of comments, in fact revel in the discussions that surround their’s, and other’s work.  Conversely we have some posters here who simply post and don’t seem to care if they get any comments at all.  They never respond to comments.  Now we have at least one poster who does not allow comments.

“No comments, please!”

What does that mean?  I’ve been thinking about it since the first “No Comments” post was put up a day ago.  I’m sure I don’t know.

The post is called “A new american civil war” and right at the top where it usually says “Leave a comment,”  instead it says “Comments are closed.”   That’s because at the bottom of the WordPress composing area there are two selection boxes that allow (or disallow) comments and track backs.

At first I though it was some kind of server problem as in “Uh, Oh.  SWI’s been hacked again and it’s going down.  Poor Bob…”  But no, Bob (our fearless editor-in-chief) checked and the poster meant to do that.  He wanted to post without allowing any comments to the piece itself.  I suppose we can post our own comments as separate pieces though. Continue reading No Comment

March 24, 2010

How NOT to Read Between the Lines

Over the past few weeks it has become obvious to me that some people reading these blogs are reading things into them that are not there. They are reading between the lines what they think someone might have meant then picking fights that aren’t there. Perhaps it isn’t a matter of needing a dictionary but of writing while angry and then not editing. Editing is something all of us should do before we post, especially if we are responding to something said that we didn’t like. And by editing I am not talking about spelling or grammatical mistakes. I am talking about truly understanding what you are responding to. Continue reading How NOT to Read Between the Lines

March 24, 2010

Google’s China play? Search me

By recklessly inserting Hong Kong in the middle of its fight with Beijing, corporate hypocrite Google recklessly put Hong Kong’s autonomy at risk for no sensible reason. [...]

March 24, 2010

Profanity and Three Year Olds

A pre-school teacher was crossing a Brooklyn street recently and complained that her 3 year old students read a sign posted against a developer as they passed. The sign started with the F word and much to the teacher’s dismay, although the children were unable to even pronounce the name of the developer, the profane word in question was truly part of their reading vocabulary. Most first graders have trouble getting past Jack and Jill but they can easily point out curse words. Such is the shape of our educational system. Continue reading Profanity and Three Year Olds

March 22, 2010

Laughter with Friends

Sitting around the table laughing, that is how I will remember Saturday night. There hadn’t been a night of laughter and joy like that in our house since the Christmas holidays. It wasn’t that we hadn’t been blessed with visits from friends in the first three months of 2010. Some of those visits were pure joy, one on one, keeping the sisterly/brotherly thing going. One dinner party was ruined by a drunken guest who talked spewing food from his mouth and kept leaning on the women at the table making lewd remarks until I threatened to excommunicate him from the house. This had happened to him once long ago and I didn’t allow him to return for a year. But we refused to be swayed by misconduct of the past. We were sitting around the table howling with laughter and that meant we were enjoying life.

You don’t reall Continue reading Laughter with Friends

March 22, 2010

VONAGE WORLD MOBILE - VoIP TO GO

Slick portable telephone service over the Internet. [...]

February 8, 2010

How to get your child through school successfully - a parents guide

Chapter 7 – Dealing with Schools

For most of us dealing with the teachers and administration at our child’s school can be a difficult process.  Many of us approach this important task with needless trepidation or false conceptions.

We were once students ourselves and may have built up a habit of obeying or even expecting punishment or derision from teachers and administrators.

This is a non productive attitude for parents.  Teachers are not gods, many of them are hardly even human.  Before engaging in any discourse with your child’s teacher, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Did this person find teaching as a calling in kindergarten, dedicating the rest of their lives to the education of children?  Or was this the only job they could find after graduating with a useless degree in Grecian philosophy?
  2. Is this person a master educator or a product of “if you can’t do, teach.”
  3. Does this slimy wanker think they’re in charge?  Or do they recognize that theirs is to serve in a difficult task as best they can.  Parents, always ask yourself, are they “the boss of me?Continue reading How to get your child through school successfully – a parents guide

February 5, 2010

YOU'RE FROM WHERE?

The idiosyncrasies of our language. [...]

February 3, 2010

VoIP NOW MEANS BUSINESS

Telephone calls over the Internet. [...]

February 1, 2010

The attack of the alien multi-media book snatchers

 

It is hard to believe sitting here today, but in 2-3 years’ time paper books simply won’t exist.

I love paper books. Specifically, I love paperbacks. As they say about Toblerone, never eat a sweet that hurts you – so I am not so fond of hardbacks as being uncomfortable and often painful to hold. But paperbacks ……

As with many authors, I read my own books about 30 times – 28 times electronically, and a couple of times in paperback. The first twenty-eight times are OK, except that even I get bored of my books eventually. However, the 29th (final correction) and 30th times are heaven. It is a completely different experience reading a book in paperback. As Steve Sangirardi is always keen to point out, it is the difference between the menu and the meal. Reading about the sensation of eating chocolate is one thing; actually eating it for the first time is another.

Nevertheless, in 2-3 years’ time paperbacks will be gone – almost completely – vanished like an old oak table [don’t you mean ‘varnished’ – ed? For the rest of this reference, see the TV series Blackadder III]. New technology takeover is often catastrophic. It is like the Monty Python running man – sprinting away but no closer – sprinting away but no closer – sprinting away but no closer – past you. Continue reading The attack of the alien multi-media book snatchers

February 1, 2010

Why We Need Black History Month

When I was in high school, a million years ago according to my children, we had Negro History Week. A speaker would come to our school to reflect on the progress of the black race. Often they would talk about people we knew from the limited black history allowed in schools. Most of the time they were encouraging us to further our education. There were no city wide events in Atlanta to ring in Negro History Week. Events took place at churches or clubs. Black History, even in its most limited form, was celebrated only by black people. Unfortunately nothing seemed to be learned by either race over the course of the years that would incorporate neglected history into text books. We need Black History Month now more than ever. Continue reading Why We Need Black History Month

January 19, 2010

Ask not how Obama changed Washington…

After one year, President Obama has yet to defy the Nixon’s funeral rule and deliver change we can believe in. [...]

December 12, 2009

Communications for the Cancer Male Caregiver

The male caregiver today has a plethora of information available to help him be successful in caring for his loved one. The Internet has literally hundreds of sights devoted to breast cancer and many of them have message boards or sections that discuss the role of the caregiver. There are three sites that I check daily. First, a national organization called Men Against Breast Cancer (www.menagainstbreastcancer.org). It is set up specifically to provide information to male caregivers. Secondly, Breast Cancer Support (http://bcsupport.org/) is an excellent source of information and they provide a chat room for one to post messages. Finally, one of the best is The Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation (http://www.komen.org) celebrating their twenty-fifth year of providing advice to patients, survivors and family members.
In addition to the cancer support websites, there are several great books written by men about their role as a caregiver. These books that are well written and offer first-hand advice from men who have been cancer caregivers. I would like to recommend:

Men Bleed Too by Thomas Brown ( http://www.thomasbrownbooks.com/ )
Cancer for Two by Dave Balch ( http://www.cancerfortwo.com/ )
In Sickness and in Health: The Breast Cancer Husband by Marc Silver (available on Amazon) Continue reading Communications for the Cancer Male Caregiver

December 11, 2009

My Blackberry and Me

My Blackberry and Me

by Bob Grant

My Blackberry is with me all of the time,

Costs less than a Ben but more than a dime.

I am not into iPhones, Tunes, or Pods,

I know with some people that puts me at odds.

My wife wants me to throw it away,

Or burn [...]

November 11, 2009

Have We Seen Enough Naked People in Bathtubs?

You’ve seen it. You’re sitting there with your kids watching Elf or some kid movie and here they come. A middleaged couple yucking it up over some wine and before you know it they are in the bathtubs in the yard holding hands, celebrating the fact that flaccidity  has been banished with CIALIS. So you plow through that one and field the questions from your kids…why are they sitting in bathtubs in the yard. You have no idea and you mutter something about how they must like to bathe outside. The next one is even worse. A grinning woman is gushing about her man and some dopey guy in a sweater is talking about how once he took EXTENDEEZ well things were never the same. The grinning woman comes back on and gushes about how she just loves her man now that he took his penis enlarging drug.

You field a few more questions and call it an antacid. Now you are slouching on the couch as you are hit with middleaged and elderly people toddling around able to just have a ball while taking drugs for incontinence, constipation, depression, COPD, Alzheimer’s, arthritis, joint pain, chemotherapy side effects, migraines, strokes, heart attacks, cholesterol…you name it. By the time Elf is over you feel like slitting your wrists. Since when did drug advertising become so heinous and pervasive? Continue reading Have We Seen Enough Naked People in Bathtubs?

October 14, 2009

THE iPhone IS JAIL BROKEN YET AGAIN

THE iPhone IS JAIL BROKEN YET AGAIN by Jorge Paez The daredevils at iPhone Dev have updated their jail breaking tools yet again.  This time, it includes the 3.1.2 iPhone software for iPhone 2 G, 3 G and 3 Gs as well as iPods of the first and second generation.  Note: from the current [...]

October 14, 2009

Questions and Answers

Does anyone know the answer?

No? Well, does anyone know the question?

Which, to me, is the question.

We humans seek THE answer. The get-rich-quick scheme. The fountain of youth. Megamillions lottery jackpot. We will pay for the answer. We will pay a lot for the answer. Whether we know the question or not.

Public discourse in our country has devolved into a contest of answers. Red state vs. blue states. Conservatism vs. liberalism. Us vs. them. Having an answer to fight for or against is more important than knowing what question the answer is supposed to answer. Sarcasm, bullying, yelling people down are the hallmarks in the sphere of Answerists.

If I am someone whose career depends on my feeding energy into a following, Rush Limbaugh would be an example, I have to package my thoughts and opinions as facts and certainties. I have to reduce complex questions into simplistic concepts so they can be filed under one of my preconceived certainties. Whether I think through the issues or not. Continue reading Questions and Answers

October 7, 2009

Curing Depression

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Carl Jung

Now here is another brain teaser for your therapist, or should I say mind teaser, the notion of curing someone with depression. Sadly, this is one of the most common causes of problems in marriages, and while we look for help from the professionals they take advantage of that vulnerability with a platform that doesn’t get to the root causes of depression. All the while, we spend about $12 billion a year on therapy and $15 billion on pharmacology drugs to treat “mental illnesses”, particularly depression.

I even find it hilarious that there is an ad on TV promoting a drug called Abilify that begins by stating that 2/3rds of people suffering from depression still have depression symptoms after taking traditional “medicine”, in essence admitting the inability of the medical approach to curing people. After all, our “mental illnesses” are biologically based, hence the medical approach to a “cure”, and there is really nothing that can be done mentally.

But there was a psychologist who actually did cure people, the one-time heir apparent to Freud by the name of Carl Jung. I refer to Jung as the greatest psychologist who ever lived basically because of the fact that his objective was to cure his patients.

Let me relate to you one of his patients whom he did cure, a patient suffering from depression. Ironically, the professionals of his day actually diagnosed her with Schizophrenia. Boy I can imagine the response from the professionals if I would have titled this post “Curing Schizophrenia”, because as most people realize after 100 years of propagating the biology conclusion, Schizophrenia is incurable. Continue reading Curing Depression

September 22, 2009

Julius and Julius (Caesar and Genachowski)

Julius and Julius (Caesar and Genachowski)

by John Armor

Two days ago we were sitting on the dock in Como, having a gellato, waiting for our ship to come in.  Not actually a ship, just a small commuter boat that connects the small communities on the shores of Lake Como in northern Italy.

It is a breathtakingly beautiful place.  I can see why VIPs come to a small hotel, built by a mediaeval Cardinal as his residence, just up the Lake.  No wonder that George Clooney has a villa here, that is reached only by helicopter, or so the gossip says.

And, this area’s history reaches deep into the mists of time.  The streets of the town were laid out about 2,500 years ago, when Julius Caesar conquered the city from its previous conquerer.  I came to talk about the sweep of time and history, and how gellato in Italy is a divine concoction, compared to what bears that label in the US, and how going on vacation is good for the soul.

But the other Julius intervened.  That’s Julius Genachowski, Chairman of the Federal Communications Commission.  The BBC had a report last night that “the FCC was going to demand internet neutrality.”  So, I looked that up on the Net this morning to find out that Genachowski was the author of this idea.

Let’s take it a step at a time.  According to the First Amendment, “Congress shall make no law concerning freedom of speech.”  The FCC is a creature of Congress, so the First Amendment covers it, too. Continue reading Julius and Julius (Caesar and Genachowski)

September 18, 2009

Curing Alcoholism

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Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage

If you would like to get your therapist’s head spinning ask him or her what it means to be cured and watch as your therapist struggles to answer that question.  The unfortunate reality is the psychology industry, with its biological foundation, has not yet defined what it means to be mentally cured.  What makes this notion even more amazing, is the rest of us as a society knows the answer to this question, to be happy with yourself.  To clarify, though, individual happiness has nothing to do with the level of wealth or looks, but is an internal quality where the individual finds balance in his or her perception of self against the backdrop of the rest of society.

I wanted to discuss one psychological problem to demonstrate my point, the notion of alcoholism.  Modern medical definitions describe alcoholism as a diseaseand addiction which results in a persistent use of alcohol despite negative consequences.  The Journal of the American Medical Association defines alcoholism as “a primary, chronic disease characterized by impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with the drug alcohol, use of alcohol despite adverse consequences, and distortions in thinking.”  According to Wikipedia it is estimated that 9% of the general population is predisposed to alcoholism based on genetic factors.

In other words, alcoholism is defined as a biological disease defined by the genetic makeup of the individual.  Alcoholics Anonymous’ basic text, known as the “Big Book,” describes alcoholism as an illness that involves a physical allergy and a mental obsession.  And of course the mental obsession occurs because of the biological makeup of the brain.  Because of this definition there is no attempt on the professionals part to “cure” the alcoholic.  In fact, the 12-step program in AA basically teaches people that they have a disease and must give their lives up to God to manage their disease, despite the fact that the fourth step involves clarifying those experiences from the past that have caused the mental problems in the first place, in what is called the “moral inventory”. Continue reading Curing Alcoholism

September 17, 2009

The Lost Leadership Skill

If you were asked about the characteristics you believe true leaders exemplify, what would be on that list? (Go ahead, take a few minutes and do that. I’ll wait.)

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OK, do you have a list in your mind? What’s on your list?

Trustworthiness? Respect? Knowledge? Passion? Integrity? Confidence? Intelligence? Compassion? Inspiration?

Now before we get on to the one skill I think is really important, I ask you: do you consider yourself a leader? Do you exemplify those characteristics on your list? Are you hoping for those traits to be given to you by those you consider to be leaders but not ready to step into that role yourself? Just something to think about.

Now, onto the one skill I think could move us lightyears forward in our communication abilities and skills in anything we endeavor: the ability to listen first, and then to “get” each other. Listening is a skill we can certain improve through practice. But even beyond the ability to listen is the ability to examine our own intentions and go beyond listening to what people are saying to what they are communicating beyond the words. Continue reading The Lost Leadership Skill

September 16, 2009

The greatest writer

Everyone has someone in mind for this noble title, or perhaps they have too many, and can’t choose.  Well, let me put forward a name to you, and possibly expand your mind a little as to the worth and possibilities of writing.  I bet you know him.  After all, publishing over 60 books, selling 220 million copies and being translated into 15 languages makes someone hard to miss.  I believe he is the most often read author of our time.  Certainly, he is the most often re-read.

It’s clear to me that this master of language and communication, has no peer. He did what most composers of word music can only dream.  Tackling the the most difficult and important audience, he unfailingly wraps our hearts in his theme by showing us the universe for what it is, without polish or limelight, and make us love it.

He inspired more than Wordsworth, Longfellow, Keats or Gibran. Spun adventures to make make London weep with envy.  Painted stories so vivid  and exciting, Dumas or  Kipling might smile in admiration.  His hearts were truer, his humor funnier, his heros more courageous and his villains so dastardly, we cringe at their mention. Continue reading The greatest writer

September 14, 2009

So what do you think Jesus looked like?

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Friday is Payday!

Take off your top for Jesus?

Kickin shirt! Walmart?

This is one of my favorite “god” questions, mostly due to the reaction I got the first time I asked it.  I was talking to a co-worker about his beliefs, mostly because they worried me.  He stated that without the threat of “god’s wrath” he would be a very bad person.  What?  Needing a minute to recoup, and to avoid just telling him he was crazy and he was very likely to be the same nice, hard working guy with or without the existence of a supreme being, I came up with a new line of thought.

So, I asked him what he thought Jesus looked like, we were in the middle of the first Iraq war and were both glued to CNN each night listening to Wolf Blitzer reporting from under his bed in the hotel in Bagdad.  Why would that matter?  Let me explain.

While there are no surviving pictures or portraits of Jesus of Nazereth, and no  reliable descriptions, we can make a few informed inferences.  For instance we do know that he was about 35 before he began getting serious about preaching, and achieved his notoriety. Continue reading So what do you think Jesus looked like?

September 14, 2009

Share Your Stories

Sometimes when I would least expect it my father would pull out this big book  published by the Time-Life Corporation with pictures from the second world war. He would point to a group of soldiers crowded on what had once been a glorious ocean liner. “There I am” he would say pointing to a speck in the front row. When we flipped the page there was a clearer picture and there he was. Tall and skinny in his uniform and life jacket. You could tell it was my father without fail. “We were on our way to land in North Africa” he would begin. The story was being told, being shared, even if I wasn’t interested.

Most writers are story tellers even if the stories they tell are not exactly the ones they want published. It is easy for me to sit down and go on and on about an incident that dances in my memory. Getting together with friends is often a chance to tweek my brain and try to remember how we came together or how we met. If there was enough alcohol to damage a few brain cells than the moments I have with people in my life to share what they know and remember is important. Unfortunately not enough of us want to share. Continue reading Share Your Stories

September 13, 2009

CONTESTACIÓN A UN RETO

A partir del punzante, humorístico y crítico artículo publicado recientemente en esta SWI por Tim Roux expuse en el mismo el comentario que ahora incluyo aquí a modo de artículo modificado y ampliado. [...]

September 9, 2009

Sex Surrogates: The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 3

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I am sorry to be so hard on the psychology industry but some of their practices done in the name of “science” bely belief, and I have discovered another concept ridiculous to the point of being hilarious.

Before I go into that concept I do want to discuss what had been my all time favorite, and shows really the lack of understanding of the psyche of the individual.

One of the most common “disorders” is a notion referred to as obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD, where an individual becomes obsessed with a thought pattern, followed by a compulsive behavior.  A “treatment” for this “disorder” is referred to as Exposure Response Prevention Therapy, or ERP Therapy, where the individual is exposed to his or her obsessive thought, followed by the prevention of the subsequent behavior.

Wikipedia defines ERP as follows:

Behavioral therapy

The specific technique used in BT/CBT is called exposure and ritual prevention (also known as “exposure and response prevention“) or ERP; this involves gradually learning to tolerate the anxiety associated with not performing the ritual behavior. At first, for example, someone might touch something only very mildly “contaminated” (such as a tissue that has been touched by another tissue that has been touched by the end of a toothpick that has touched a book that came from a “contaminated” location, such as a school.) That is the “exposure”. The “ritual prevention” is not washing. Another example might be leaving the house and checking the lock only once (exposure) without going back and checking again (ritual prevention). The person fairly quickly habituates to the anxiety-producing situation and discovers that their anxiety level has dropped considerably; they can then progress to touching something more “contaminated” or not checking the lock at all—again, without performing the ritual behavior of washing or checking. Continue reading Sex Surrogates: The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 3

September 5, 2009

Here Comes the President. Hide the Kids!

Here Comes the President. Hide the Kids!

By Alan Caruba

So the President wants to get the school year off with a speech to all the kids from kindergarten to twelfth grade. Under normal circumstances, this would not arouse my comment although it must be said that I do not recall any previous president doing this.

I do not recall schools announcing they would not let the President’s speech be heard by the children in their care and, most certainly, I do not recall parents saying they would rather keep their children home that have them exposed to the President’s message.

I am not aware of what that message would be. There has been speculation that President Obama just wants to encourage children to stay in school, study hard, and listen to their teachers.

The real message, however, is more subtle than that and people don’t like it. They don’t like the way, in the midst of a major recession, the President began his term in office by flying off to foreign lands, apologizing for America in one fashion or another, and saying strange things like America was not a Christian nation. Continue reading Here Comes the President. Hide the Kids!

September 3, 2009

It pays to be mean

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Is it a problem that negative journalism is read, viewed, discussed more than positive reporting?  Well, more viewers means more money and as a race, it would seem that we are more attracted to the negative than the positive.

Just  a few nights in front of the TV around any election will demonstrate to the viewer that when money is being spent, it’s the negative ads that get made.  This is a good measure of effectiveness of the “right type” of marketing. Consultants and campaign managers are paid to win campaigns, they have to use what sells in order to be effective.  Their overwhelming choice; a good smear campaign.  Everyone can name their favorite, there is almost no need cite examples.

The news media also knows this key strategy, in the form of “bad news sells.”  We only have to count the number of bad news stories as compared to good news stories to see.  What’s the average, 98 to 1?  Which is why morning news/entertainment shows all vie for the worst (read “best”) stories they can find.  They have an insatiable appetite for fires and floods, murders and kidnappings, and bad war news. Even the so-called entertainment segments of the programs cover only the best fear producing topics.  Are you being ripped off at the store?  Why you are more likely than the next guy to die at an early age (insert too fat, too sedentary, bad diet, bad genes, bad habits).

Of course, that brings us to the latest media love affair, reality medical shows.  Doctors giving advice and commentary, on all the medical or psychological problems we may have.  Medical fear mongering for the “snake fascinated” audience. Continue reading It pays to be mean

August 28, 2009

Question: Is Marriage Dead?

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Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

I’m half way through my two month blog tour on relationships.  The stops have generally been both interactive and productive.  I’ve particularly like the stops where the topics were questions related to relationships.

I wanted to share one in particular, at the Long Relationships blog.  I had stops on 3 consecutive days.  The first day the questions was is marriage dead.  I also want to add the dialogue that ensued.  Here is the link to that blog post.

Question: Is Marriage Dead?

When you sit back and ponder for a moment “what is the biggest problem we as a society are dealing with today”, how would you respond? Is it global warming? Or maybe feeding the hungry? Or possibly our current economic situation?

While these issues get a lot of headlines I would actually have to say our biggest problem is the current culture of marriage. After all, we constantly hear that 50% of those who declare in front of family, friends and God “for better or worse” end up ending what began with such hope and promise. Continue reading Question: Is Marriage Dead?

August 27, 2009

Ask The Right Question

Asking effective questions is actually an art that we can develop and forms the basis for truly effective communication. Tony Robbins, the motivational expert, says that thinking is actually a process of asking and answering questions. Think about that. It’s true! You are constantly asking yourself questions and answering them. The quality of your questions, determines the quality of the answers. [...]

August 22, 2009

What “is” SpeakWithoutInterruption.com?

Our website www.SpeakWithoutInterruption.com is for “accomplished writers” who want to post articles/essays about any topic or category that is of interest to them.  Many new contributors have asked me what I would like them to write about?  I tell them there is no limit to areas they can address – certainly anything that is important [...]

August 22, 2009

Who am I and Why did I start this Blog?

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Our site went online December 6, 2008.  Since that time I have been asked, by a number of people, why I set up this blog (now an Online Magazine) and who am I?  I want to take this opportunity to briefly explain both.  My name is Bob Grant.  I am 63 – been married for 42 years – been a school teacher, in the Army during Viet Nam, a corporate flunky, and a small business owner.  I have had successes, and failures, over the years just like everyone else.  I am not a writer by profession or any other criteria – in fact, I was a Physical Education major in college who went to school to major in football.  However, I have grown to enjoy reading very much and try to read a book a week.  I have tremendous respect for the written word and for people who can intelligently put their thoughts into written form. Continue reading Who am I and Why did I start this Blog?

August 2, 2009

Where’s Obama’s Birth Certificate

Last Friday, I drove to the airport and on that drive, I listened to a discussion on this topic.  After I heard all the “facts” in detail, clearly, this issue is racial and driven by a political agenda from the idealistic, far right that cannot stand anybody that does not believe as they do. 

It was mentioned that Obama provided a copy of his birth certificate to CNN before the election, and experts verified it was real.  Another search found birth notices in the archives of two newspapers in Hawaii.  In addition, the governor of Hawaii, a Republican, said that there is no doubt that Obama was born in Hawaii.  Yet, this issue will not die just like the “Swift boat Veterans for Truth”, or whatever they called themselves, didn’t die as they took facts about Kerry’s life and smeared them all over the place casting doubt on his honesty and courage. 

Just because Kerry received minor flesh wounds does not make him a coward.  It sounds like I have changed topic, but both are related because both show how political agendas turn lies into truth in the public arena of misinformation designed to influence opinions and votes. 

Even if Obama printed a hundred million copies of the original birth certificate and mailed them out, those that want to believe he is not a citizen and shouldn’t be in the White House will still believe.  Nothing will change their minds.  Even if someone took those people by the ear and led them to the evidence, they would claim it was forged. Even if nonbiased experts said they examined the birth notices in newspapers, the records in the hospital and the birth certificates and found all to be valid (which they have), there would be doubts because that is the goal as another election looms. There are racist, far right conservative idealists out there that would not admit the truth if they were in that operating room the day Obama was born. In addition, even if Obama was born in another country, his mother was an American citizen and at that time, that automatically made him an American citizen because that was the law. Continue reading Where’s Obama’s Birth Certificate

July 24, 2009

OUR CHANGING VERNACULAR

How our society evolves through words and names. [...]

June 26, 2009

LA RELEVANCIA DEL ZAPATO

En estos días muy próximos a las elecciones intermedias en México, los temas de discusión central han sido el voto nulo y el voto blanco. Al buscar en Google la combinación exacta “voto nulo” obtenemos 495 mil referencias. Con la combinación “voto blanco”, 363 mil referencias. [...]

May 29, 2009

Book Excerpt: Do We Develop or Not?

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We know from Darwin’s theory of evolution that the notion of development elicits controversy from many intellectual corners.  If we think about the notion of development through to its conclusion then many established organizations lose their grip on us as individuals.  This question becomes extremely important in relationships.  

We need to look no further than our corporate environments to get a real sense for the answer to this question, for corporations live and die by the notion of development.  The following excerpt from “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” addresses just that question, and the perspective of two very influential organizations on our lives.  The question is whether we as individuals develop or not?

Do we develop or not, that is the question?

GE’s involvement as a component of the Dow Jones Industrial Average (DJIA) index tells us so much about this most important question.  Two men, Charles Dow and Edward Jones, who had started a newspaper company devoted entirely to covering business news, began publishing the newspaper The Wall Street Journal in 1884, developed the DJIA in 1896.  The DJIA index was invented as a gauge of the success of our economy.  Continue reading Book Excerpt: Do We Develop or Not?

May 29, 2009

TALKING WITH YOUR HANDS

Our second set of lips. [...]

May 19, 2009

SOBRE LOS COMENTARIOS DE LECTOR

¿Participar o no participar? ¿Comentar o no comentar lo que leemos en los blogs? ¡He aquí el dilema. [...]

May 15, 2009

Hiring the handicapped

A Silicon Valley company I would like to name but should not (libel laws, like gravity, operate 24 hours a day, seven days a week) has gained a global reputation for clever innovation. Their success baffles me.

Some years back I was asked to write a cover story for their external house organ. The project involved traveling a long way to interview and photograph a brilliant man who used the company’s product in his work. I delivered to requested POV, length and deadline. The editor was a professional who knew his job and did it well. He was that rare and wonderful pro who knew his real goal: specify his needs precisely, manage his publication efficiently and enable his writers to deliver excellence, which would make him look good. He handled the process to perfection and got me paid promptly. I’d go to hell and back for editors like that. Wouldn’t you?

The bad news: completing this project placed me on the procurement list in the company’s purchasing department. Bad news? Wasn’t the company a Silicon Valley icon? Isn’t a gig a gig? Money in the bank? Well, no. Not always. Hang with me, please. Continue reading Hiring the handicapped

May 13, 2009

All The Presidents Men

artsy14The question is will a fair and vigorous press spring up after the newspapers are gone? Will the next Woodward and Bernstein (Washington Post Reporters who uncovered Watergate) be culled from the ranks of bloggers writing about events from other warmed over net news items? Or will that go the way of pulp and belong to an age gone by. Could a Nixon be taken down by an I Reporter. Or would they be stopped at the first meeting with Deep Throat (covert informant) and worry about their safety and consider the fact they are not getting paid. Would they cull through news articles and Freedom of Information documents to find the necessary puzzle pieces that ultimately led to the White House? Or would they just fall back into bed and write another Op Ed piece on their laptop and worry about how many clicks they are getting?
The two young reporters for the Washington Post were idealistic digging journalists in the classic mode who believed a fair and vigorous press was our only hope. Can a Democracy survive without one? Probably. Will we be better for it? No. If we cannot produce another Woodward and Bernstein out of the till of new media then certainly we will not be able to uncover corruption at the highest levels. If journalism is an art form and a craft then we better figure a way to preserver the ragged remains of our newspapers even as they turn into online news content. It is not the method of delivery we are talking about but the way that news will be gathered in the future. Continue reading All The Presidents Men

May 12, 2009

A failure to communicate (Part 2—the ‘abominable no man’)

Businesses of every imaginable kind must communicate, explain what they do, internally and externally, or die. Reaching out to customers, suppliers, employees, prospects and shareholders is not an option. In the case of publicly-held companies, quarterly and annual financial reporting is the law. To reach prospects and customers they need advertising and public-relations agencies, and competent writers in many areas of business activity.

‘Grow or die’ means what it says. Organizations, people, vegetables. Let’s stick to corporations. New and self-renewing enterprises investigate and exploit inventions, new ways to do things, in an accelerating technological world. They kill their own established products with new ones, e.g. in high technology. Corporate graveyards are filled with the tombstones of companies who rested on their laurels, stood pat and (often) tried to save money by not investing in communications: advertising, PR, shows—the media list is long and costly.

Successful companies know that if they don’t innovate first their competitors will. Then they must tell the world, or fail. Global competition is lean and mean, tough and aggressive, well heeled and determined. Failing to respect competition is, frankly, suicidal. Continue reading A failure to communicate (Part 2—the ‘abominable no man’)

May 11, 2009

Non-Fiction Writing—Avoiding the I, Oh and You

When new authors write non-fiction, they will often base their subject matter on personal experiences. One mistake commonly made, is the over use of the word “I” in the beginning of sentences. “I know this because I’ve been there, done that.” Or, “I did it this, or that way.” Over use of “I” can make your work sound self-absorbing; not something you should want to portray to your readers—especially if your plans include a follow-up edition. Try finding other words to begin your sentences, such as, “Having learned my self, I tried it this way, and it seemed to work.”

Another word or “phrase” really, to avoid beginning a sentence with, “Oh, by the way,…” Before you add this to your text, sit back and decide if it is really necessary to make your point. “I went to the grocery store and they don’t have beans. Oh, by the way, they didn’t have rice either.” Instead, how about, “When I went to the grocery store they didn’t have beans or rice.” Play with your sentences and try to hone in on your creativity.

“You should try fishing on the Rouge River.” Sounds a bit like your insisting I do what you ask. How about, “Fishing on the Rouge River is great.” It’s okay to address your reader in a personal manner, but overuse of the same word, such as, “you,” might begin to sound aggressive in tone; try sounding more suggestive rather than forceful. Continue reading Non-Fiction Writing—Avoiding the I, Oh and You

May 11, 2009

A failure to communicate (Part 1—it’s an act of will)

How often have you seen businessmen—in business or trying to build one—fail to include communications as a specific budget item in their cost projections? Brilliant inventors and entrepreneurs who don’t see the need for business plans are legion, too. So are marketing geniuses who rely on personal contacts alone. Financial supporters don’t discover new companies by accident. Prospects and customers don’t acquire information about new products and services by reading tealeaves, from intuition, using osmosis or via psychic phenomena. Forgive me if I seem self-serving.

Communications count. Yes, really. For everyone. They manage how we are perceived, like it or not. You, I and everyone, including political parties, corporations, cities and organizations of every type and size, acquire a reputation by decision or by default.

Unless sloughed off as irrelevant, communicating is a decision, an act of will that must be budgeted and executed properly and professionally, to include ‘the abominable no man’ (we’ll discuss him tomorrow) as audiences you must address or risk failure. A metaphor for the ‘abominable no man’ is that memorable Washington, DC political caveat: you can be killed by a knife thrown across town and you may never find out whose hand it left. Continue reading A failure to communicate (Part 1—it’s an act of will)

May 8, 2009

Relationships Advice: Transference Causes Divorce

 

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Here is the most significant point made in the entire book, transference causes divorce.  This one single point can probably do more than any other to motivate couples to learn how to move their relationships in the right direction.  And for the first time ever on a public forum, you can read what I am talking about.  For the first time a psychological cause of divorce is explained.  

The following link was one of the stops on my blog tour on relationships, where I visited Blogging Authors to discuss this very important point.  To view the link please visit:

Transference Causes Divorce

 

 

Transference Causes Divorce 

May 5, 2009

Spin

Politicians and bureaucrats do it daily, for effect. Headline writers and editors, and their journalists. Radio and TV. So do husbands and wives, sons and daughters, relatives and friends. You do it. I do it. We all do it. We shade and evade, pontificate and prevaricate. We . . . spin. When advertisers do it badly, it shows. Today, as I hardly need remind you, we are assaulted by advertising on all sides. I am surprised, candidly, that no advertiser has yet seen fit to print ads on toilet seats (Oh no! Someone will do it!!).

Consider the upsurge of drug advertising on TV, without which the networks’ nightly news programs would wither and die (it’s their demographic—you can tell from the surge of ads for old-folk medicines I won’t cite in a ‘family’ publication). Consider, further, the spin surrounding drug-product claims. This is a low-specific-gravity bog into which products, advertising agencies and users fall, flounder and disappear without a trace. The spin is infuriating, depressing, unprofessional. Continue reading Spin

May 5, 2009

THE LAST MAN ON EARTH

Or the last one to get a cell phone… [...]

May 4, 2009

On-air illiteracy: the multi-million-dollar misunderstanding

We consumers in the U.S. are being defrauded by the news media for which we pay, by our donations or through the advertising we see and hear, or—if we are advertising agencies—buy. Harsh? Yes. Appropriate? Indeed.

Broadcasting should deliver high-quality written and spoken linguistic skills, through which we and our children learn about life, and how to speak and understand. The endless lowering of standards in news reading (via teleprompter or from text written by others) is destroying the language in many ways, subtle and crude. If the eyes are the mirror of the soul, the voice is the mirror of the brain. Aside from regional accents that may travel badly, the inability to speak agreeably, coherently and grammatically should be unacceptable from professional newsreaders, most of whose salaries flow directly from the advertising revenues that support them, thus from consumers, i.e. us.

Wrong emphasis is epidemic: “words IN the text stressed FOR no reason, TO avoid thinking OF their meaning OR how listeners relate TO them.” The action items: ‘words,’ ‘text,’ ‘stressed,’ ‘reason,’ ‘thinking,’ ‘meaning,’ ‘listeners’ and ‘relate.’ We hear: ‘in,’ ‘for,’ ‘to,’ ‘of,’ ‘or’ and ‘to.’ Yes, really. The same people often punch up every word, stress the wrong words or syllables or mispronounce. ‘Miss-CHEE-vy-us,’ anyone? Or the ever-popular ‘Feb-yoo-erry,’ vs. ‘Feb-roo-ary?’ Note: criteria, bacteria and phenomena are plural (criteria ARE, a criterion IS; bacteria ARE, a bacterium IS; phenomena ARE, a phenomenon IS). OK? Too often they just don’t get it. Can you say ‘pathetic?’ Continue reading On-air illiteracy: the multi-million-dollar misunderstanding

April 29, 2009

Book Excerpt: Are We Biological Beasts or Psychological Beings?

 

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Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

I want to pose to you one of the most significant questions needed to understand before we are going to solve our marriage problem.  Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?  Unfortunately the belief within the mainstream teachings of the psychology industry is that we are nothing more than biological beasts.  The industry still experiments on animals to try to extrapolate behavior in humans.  

Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?

It is impossible to completely explain the significance of going the biology route instead of the psychology route.  The hypothesis that our behavior is driven by our biological needs implies we are born with our problems and there is not a damn thing we can do about it.  The notion that our psyche is psychologically driven implies we can learn and we can think, or develop. 

In other words, the biological concept holds we are born with our brain pre-wired and that our psychological development occurs when our experiences activate the pre-wired neurons and synapses creating behavior.  Or put another way, the biological conclusion would lead psychologists to claim that our understanding of the use of the computer occurs because we are born with the knowledge of how to use the computer and we simply must use the computer and these pre-wired neurons and synapses become activated, giving us the understanding of the use of the computer, to behave by using the computer.  Continue reading Book Excerpt: Are We Biological Beasts or Psychological Beings?

April 23, 2009

Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory: a tragedy in three acts

Dan gave me my first professional, managerial job in America after I immigrated. I had slaved at a field job in Louisiana’s oil patch for a year, working 80-hour weeks. I was burned out. He took me on, at great risk. It worked, for both of us.

Dan was a piece of work—about 30, a brilliant if mercurial manager. He ran the communications department at a division of a major corporation in Houston. He asked me to handle the documentation, literature, proposal and PR area—fascinating and rewarding. He taught me a lot, as good bosses do.

But Dan had a fatal flaw. In the end it consumed him. If the question ever arose about whether he would serve his own interests or those of his company and employees, his own interests won out almost every time. He was, in modern parlance, a slacker. Continue reading Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory: a tragedy in three acts

April 20, 2009

Innovation Journalism: be there

From May 18-20, a Stanford University conference will focus on journalism in crisis, as electronic media—the Internet, radio and TV—crush print and destroy many journalists’ careers. The ‘Innovation Journalism Conference’ is about reporting on innovations and about new publishing business models for the digital age.

A Swedish scientist turned journalist heads the program: Dr. David Nordfors. He is backed by the Swedish government’s VINNOVA, which with Stanford has formed an institute to research innovation journalism. For six years the program has invited journalists worldwide to work as Fellows. While creating much Conference content, these men and women intern at newsrooms in media, print and electronic, around the U.S. Continue reading Innovation Journalism: be there

April 10, 2009

The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 2

 

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I would like to begin this post by stating that yes I am generalizing psychologists with posts like this, but as I get more involved in my project I am running across more concerned psychologists who do understand the notion of psychological healing through forgiveness by unlocking past experiences that cause individuals to have mental imbalances.  

But I continue to believe this is a minority of the psychology community.  

I wanted to continue a post I published concerning the response I received on the notion of mental equality between a husband and wife.  My declaration was met with criticism by comparing men and women with bananas and peaches, with the statement about how bananas and peaches can be equal.  To see the full discussion please visit the following link:

happymarriages.com/?p=101

  Continue reading The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 2

April 9, 2009

Website hell

The Internet’s enormity makes it a subject too large for a dozen books, or a hundred. It’s still only a communications channel, regardless of the magical properties ascribed incorrectly to this digital phenomenon. In terms of conveying information, it’s no better and no worse than any other medium—print, video, phone, etc.—except insofar as it might be more efficient. It often isn’t. Websites test our understanding and patience. Many websites fail the test for effectiveness, logic and ease of use. For writers of website material—you, perhaps?—the task is particularly challenging.

Recall the five-second ‘rule’ of retaining reader attention. It’s even tougher on the Internet. Users scan websites and data in a fraction of that time. Time, for most busy people, is money and cannot be wasted. As the velocity of our affairs accelerates, this becomes more and more important. As young people migrate by the tens of millions from the printed word to the displayed digit, it might be appropriate to remind them that their gadgets are not free and should be compared in actual cost with all other media. Continue reading Website hell

April 8, 2009

Five seconds

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Old saying. Important meaning to politicians, to advertisers and to their agencies, to copywriters, to website creators . . . indeed to anyone who attempts to communicate for a living, as I do.

Ask someone who scans a newspaper or magazine or blog how they read or how they open a book to check the opening words. Consider your own reading processes. Watch anyone surfing the Internet or clicking a TV remote. Ask a person entering a roomful of strangers how they evaluate the room; then consider how the people already there appraise newcomers. Study a stage at curtain-up time. Think about the last time you interviewed someone or were interviewed. For perspective, add a brush with the law—driving, for example. You usually know in five seconds or less how it will turn out. These activities are akin to ‘speed dating,’ whether you or I like it or not. Continue reading Five seconds

April 2, 2009

‘A nation of servants’

I would like to post here an article written by a Hong Kong-based magazine columnist who labeled the Philippines as a “nation of servants”.

“The war at home”

by Chip Tsao
HK Magazine
The Russians sank a Hong Kong freighter last month, killing the seven Chinese seamen on board. We can live with that—Lenin and Stalin were once the ideological mentors of all Chinese people. The Japanese planted a flag on Diàoyú Island. That’s no big problem—we Hong Kong Chinese love Japanese cartoons, Hello Kitty, and shopping in Shinjuku, let alone our round-the-clock obsession with karaoke. Continue reading ‘A nation of servants’

April 1, 2009

Blog Tour on Relationships with Relationship Expert Tim Kellis

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Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

Hello

The month of April is upon us and I would like to invite you for a Blog Tour I will be doing this month, and next. The focus on the tour will be relationships, and the discussion is sure to be lively. 

I want to begin by thanking Dorothy Thompson at Pump Up Your Book Promotion (http://www.pumpupyourbookpromotion.com/) for her tireless work over the last 2 months putting this Blog Tour together. 

She already has the month of April filled up, and is sure to have a full lineup for May too. 

Our first stop is going to be Lessons from a Recovering Doormat. Please join us on April 1st at http://www.lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat.com/ to participate at our first stop.  Continue reading Blog Tour on Relationships with Relationship Expert Tim Kellis

March 23, 2009

Book Review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers

Hello.  
I wanted to share with you a recent book review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers.  To view the review online please visit the following link:

“Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” Book Review

 

If you would like to pick up a copy of the book you can get it for a 20% discount at the following link:

20% Discount on Book

 

"Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

"Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

 

 

Equality
The Quest for the Happy Marriage
Tim Kellis
Gilgamesh Publishing
ISBN: 978-0-9799848-0-8
440 pages

When I began reading Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage, by Tim Kellis, I expected to read a typical counseling book such as those that fill the shelves of bookstores. Most of these are written by experts in the field of counseling who have degrees in psychology, psychiatry, or pastoral ministries.  I was totally wrong in regard to the word “typical.”  This book delves deep into the mind, reminding readers of historical happenings, successful businesses, politics, education, religion, family backgrounds, and the scientific work of many individuals, all which, according to the author’s findings, can unlock some of the mysteries as to what is behind the 50 percent divorce rate among couples who promised to love one another “for better or worse.”  Continue reading Book Review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers

March 16, 2009

The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists

If you want to know why we have a 50% divorce rate you need to look no further than the “logic” used by the professionals.  And I have a wonderful example for you.  Below you will read a comment that someone actually posted to a blog interview I hosted.  To see the full blog interview please visit the following link:  

authorkellymoran.blogspot.com/2009/03/kelly-interviews-author-tim-kellis.html

Bob Snider

Bob Snider

 

 

I also want to let you know that there is a 20% discount on my relationship book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”.
 

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March 10, 2009

Roses: A Love Story by an Anonymous Author

Red roses were her favorites, her name was also Rose.
And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows.
The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door.
The card said, ‘Be my Valentine,’ like all the years before.
Each year he sent her roses, and the note would always say,
‘I love you even more this year, than last year on this day.
My love for you will always grow, with every passing year.’

She knew this was the last time that the roses would appear.
She thought he ordered roses in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know, that he would pass away.
He always liked to do things early, way before the time.
Then, if he got too busy, everything would work out fine. Continue reading Roses: A Love Story by an Anonymous Author

March 5, 2009

My Inspiration for Writing “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”

 

 

Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"

My biggest influence, and the reason I have taken on the challenge of saving marriages, were my parents, who again just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary.  And their influence wasn’t because of anything they ever said to me, [...]

March 3, 2009

How Do You Each Handle the Intellectual and Emotional Side in the Relationship

Handling the Intellectual and Emotional Side in the Relationship

The notion of development has been hotly debated for centuries by men and women of knowledge, as demonstrated by the difficulty in accepting the theories of Darwinism.  Within relationships, this concept becomes even more significant, because if you understand the notion that you are [...]

March 3, 2009

Slumdogs all: yes, YOU

Airplane as metaphor: torture chamber. Flights beyond five-six hours numb the mind, heart and backside. The trip from San Francisco to Delhi, pausing in Frankfurt briefly to change planes at local midday, one night into the mission, seems endless. Over Eastern Europe and Asia in daylight, barren territory slips by seven miles below. Over [...]

March 2, 2009

Oh my America!

You found me first, America, in WWII. I was a boy in England. You were a 20-year-old airman on your way to die for me and many others in many nations, in the violent skies over Europe. You were kind, casual, full of life. We were starving and scared. You gave us food and [...]

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