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October 7, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Books, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Aspects, Social Issues, Spirituality, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Wellness
 
 Carl Jung Now here is another brain teaser for your therapist, or should I say mind teaser, the notion of curing someone with depression. Sadly, this is one of the most common causes of problems in marriages, and while we look for help from the professionals they take advantage of that vulnerability with a platform that doesn’t get to the root causes of depression. All the while, we spend about $12 billion a year on therapy and $15 billion on pharmacology drugs to treat “mental illnesses”, particularly depression.
I even find it hilarious that there is an ad on TV promoting a drug called Abilify that begins by stating that 2/3rds of people suffering from depression still have depression symptoms after taking traditional “medicine”, in essence admitting the inability of the medical approach to curing people. After all, our “mental illnesses” are biologically based, hence the medical approach to a “cure”, and there is really nothing that can be done mentally.
But there was a psychologist who actually did cure people, the one-time heir apparent to Freud by the name of Carl Jung. I refer to Jung as the greatest psychologist who ever lived basically because of the fact that his objective was to cure his patients.
Let me relate to you one of his patients whom he did cure, a patient suffering from depression. Ironically, the professionals of his day actually diagnosed her with Schizophrenia. Boy I can imagine the response from the professionals if I would have titled this post “Curing Schizophrenia”, because as most people realize after 100 years of propagating the biology conclusion, Schizophrenia is incurable. Continue reading Curing Depression
September 18, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Books, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Life Experiences, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Personal Experiences, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Wellness, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage If you would like to get your therapist’s head spinning ask him or her what it means to be cured and watch as your therapist struggles to answer that question. The unfortunate reality is the psychology industry, with its biological foundation, has not yet defined what it means to be mentally cured. What makes this notion even more amazing, is the rest of us as a society knows the answer to this question, to be happy with yourself. To clarify, though, individual happiness has nothing to do with the level of wealth or looks, but is an internal quality where the individual finds balance in his or her perception of self against the backdrop of the rest of society.
I wanted to discuss one psychological problem to demonstrate my point, the notion of alcoholism. Modern medical definitions describe alcoholism as a diseaseand addiction which results in a persistent use of alcohol despite negative consequences. The Journal of the American Medical Association defines alcoholism as “a primary, chronic disease characterized by impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with the drug alcohol, use of alcohol despite adverse consequences, and distortions in thinking.” According to Wikipedia it is estimated that 9% of the general population is predisposed to alcoholism based on genetic factors.
In other words, alcoholism is defined as a biological disease defined by the genetic makeup of the individual. Alcoholics Anonymous’ basic text, known as the “Big Book,” describes alcoholism as an illness that involves a physical allergy and a mental obsession. And of course the mental obsession occurs because of the biological makeup of the brain. Because of this definition there is no attempt on the professionals part to “cure” the alcoholic. In fact, the 12-step program in AA basically teaches people that they have a disease and must give their lives up to God to manage their disease, despite the fact that the fourth step involves clarifying those experiences from the past that have caused the mental problems in the first place, in what is called the “moral inventory”. Continue reading Curing Alcoholism
September 9, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Books, Communications, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Morality, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Sex, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 International Professional Surrogate Association I am sorry to be so hard on the psychology industry but some of their practices done in the name of “science” bely belief, and I have discovered another concept ridiculous to the point of being hilarious.
Before I go into that concept I do want to discuss what had been my all time favorite, and shows really the lack of understanding of the psyche of the individual.
One of the most common “disorders” is a notion referred to as obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD, where an individual becomes obsessed with a thought pattern, followed by a compulsive behavior. A “treatment” for this “disorder” is referred to as Exposure Response Prevention Therapy, or ERP Therapy, where the individual is exposed to his or her obsessive thought, followed by the prevention of the subsequent behavior.
Wikipedia defines ERP as follows:
Behavioral therapy
The specific technique used in BT/CBT is called exposure and ritual prevention (also known as “exposure and response prevention“) or ERP; this involves gradually learning to tolerate the anxiety associated with not performing the ritual behavior. At first, for example, someone might touch something only very mildly “contaminated” (such as a tissue that has been touched by another tissue that has been touched by the end of a toothpick that has touched a book that came from a “contaminated” location, such as a school.) That is the “exposure”. The “ritual prevention” is not washing. Another example might be leaving the house and checking the lock only once (exposure) without going back and checking again (ritual prevention). The person fairly quickly habituates to the anxiety-producing situation and discovers that their anxiety level has dropped considerably; they can then progress to touching something more “contaminated” or not checking the lock at all—again, without performing the ritual behavior of washing or checking. Continue reading Sex Surrogates: The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 3
August 28, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Accountability, Advice, Books, Communications, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Internet Advice, Interview, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Media, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
 Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" I’m half way through my two month blog tour on relationships. The stops have generally been both interactive and productive. I’ve particularly like the stops where the topics were questions related to relationships.
I wanted to share one in particular, at the Long Relationships blog. I had stops on 3 consecutive days. The first day the questions was is marriage dead. I also want to add the dialogue that ensued. Here is the link to that blog post.
Question: Is Marriage Dead?
When you sit back and ponder for a moment “what is the biggest problem we as a society are dealing with today”, how would you respond? Is it global warming? Or maybe feeding the hungry? Or possibly our current economic situation?
While these issues get a lot of headlines I would actually have to say our biggest problem is the current culture of marriage. After all, we constantly hear that 50% of those who declare in front of family, friends and God “for better or worse” end up ending what began with such hope and promise. Continue reading Question: Is Marriage Dead?
May 29, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Publishing, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage We know from Darwin’s theory of evolution that the notion of development elicits controversy from many intellectual corners. If we think about the notion of development through to its conclusion then many established organizations lose their grip on us as individuals. This question becomes extremely important in relationships.
We need to look no further than our corporate environments to get a real sense for the answer to this question, for corporations live and die by the notion of development. The following excerpt from “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” addresses just that question, and the perspective of two very influential organizations on our lives. The question is whether we as individuals develop or not?
Do we develop or not, that is the question?
GE’s involvement as a component of the Dow Jones Industrial Average (DJIA) index tells us so much about this most important question. Two men, Charles Dow and Edward Jones, who had started a newspaper company devoted entirely to covering business news, began publishing the newspaper The Wall Street Journal in 1884, developed the DJIA in 1896. The DJIA index was invented as a gauge of the success of our economy. Continue reading Book Excerpt: Do We Develop or Not?
May 8, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage Here is the most significant point made in the entire book, transference causes divorce. This one single point can probably do more than any other to motivate couples to learn how to move their relationships in the right direction. And for the first time ever on a public forum, you can read what I am talking about. For the first time a psychological cause of divorce is explained.
The following link was one of the stops on my blog tour on relationships, where I visited Blogging Authors to discuss this very important point. To view the link please visit:
Transference Causes Divorce
MONDAY, APRIL 13, 2009
April 29, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Advice, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Literature, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" I want to pose to you one of the most significant questions needed to understand before we are going to solve our marriage problem. Are we biological beasts or psychological beings? Unfortunately the belief within the mainstream teachings of the psychology industry is that we are nothing more than biological beasts. The industry still experiments on animals to try to extrapolate behavior in humans.
Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?
It is impossible to completely explain the significance of going the biology route instead of the psychology route. The hypothesis that our behavior is driven by our biological needs implies we are born with our problems and there is not a damn thing we can do about it. The notion that our psyche is psychologically driven implies we can learn and we can think, or develop.
In other words, the biological concept holds we are born with our brain pre-wired and that our psychological development occurs when our experiences activate the pre-wired neurons and synapses creating behavior. Or put another way, the biological conclusion would lead psychologists to claim that our understanding of the use of the computer occurs because we are born with the knowledge of how to use the computer and we simply must use the computer and these pre-wired neurons and synapses become activated, giving us the understanding of the use of the computer, to behave by using the computer. Continue reading Book Excerpt: Are We Biological Beasts or Psychological Beings?
April 10, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
 Lenn I would like to begin this post by stating that yes I am generalizing psychologists with posts like this, but as I get more involved in my project I am running across more concerned psychologists who do understand the notion of psychological healing through forgiveness by unlocking past experiences that cause individuals to have mental imbalances.
But I continue to believe this is a minority of the psychology community.
I wanted to continue a post I published concerning the response I received on the notion of mental equality between a husband and wife. My declaration was met with criticism by comparing men and women with bananas and peaches, with the statement about how bananas and peaches can be equal. To see the full discussion please visit the following link:
happymarriages.com/?p=101
Continue reading The “Logic” of Professional Psychologists Part 2
April 1, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Marketing Online, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Habit Change, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
 Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage" Hello
The month of April is upon us and I would like to invite you for a Blog Tour I will be doing this month, and next. The focus on the tour will be relationships, and the discussion is sure to be lively.
I want to begin by thanking Dorothy Thompson at Pump Up Your Book Promotion (http://www.pumpupyourbookpromotion.com/) for her tireless work over the last 2 months putting this Blog Tour together.
She already has the month of April filled up, and is sure to have a full lineup for May too.
Our first stop is going to be Lessons from a Recovering Doormat. Please join us on April 1st at http://www.lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat.com/ to participate at our first stop. Continue reading Blog Tour on Relationships with Relationship Expert Tim Kellis
March 23, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Creative Writing, Education, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Perspective
Hello.
I wanted to share with you a recent book review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers. To view the review online please visit the following link:
“Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” Book Review
If you would like to pick up a copy of the book you can get it for a 20% discount at the following link:
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 "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
Equality
The Quest for the Happy Marriage
Tim Kellis
Gilgamesh Publishing
ISBN: 978-0-9799848-0-8
440 pages
When I began reading Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage, by Tim Kellis, I expected to read a typical counseling book such as those that fill the shelves of bookstores. Most of these are written by experts in the field of counseling who have degrees in psychology, psychiatry, or pastoral ministries. I was totally wrong in regard to the word “typical.” This book delves deep into the mind, reminding readers of historical happenings, successful businesses, politics, education, religion, family backgrounds, and the scientific work of many individuals, all which, according to the author’s findings, can unlock some of the mysteries as to what is behind the 50 percent divorce rate among couples who promised to love one another “for better or worse.” Continue reading Book Review by Bettie Corbin Tucker from Independent Book Reviewers
March 16, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Accountability, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Women's Rights
If you want to know why we have a 50% divorce rate you need to look no further than the “logic” used by the professionals. And I have a wonderful example for you. Below you will read a comment that someone actually posted to a blog interview I hosted. To see the full blog interview please visit the following link:
authorkellymoran.blogspot.com/2009/03/kelly-interviews-author-tim-kellis.html
 Bob Snider
I also want to let you know that there is a 20% discount on my relationship book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”.
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March 10, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, Spirituality, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
Red roses were her favorites, her name was also Rose.
And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows.
The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door.
The card said, ‘Be my Valentine,’ like all the years before.
Each year he sent her roses, and the note would always say,
‘I love you even more this year, than last year on this day.
My love for you will always grow, with every passing year.’
She knew this was the last time that the roses would appear.
She thought he ordered roses in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know, that he would pass away.
He always liked to do things early, way before the time.
Then, if he got too busy, everything would work out fine. Continue reading Roses: A Love Story by an Anonymous Author
March 5, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Biography & Memoir, Book Marketing Online, Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
Tim Kellis, author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
My biggest influence, and the reason I have taken on the challenge of saving marriages, were my parents, who again just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. And their influence wasn’t because of anything they ever said to me, [...]
March 3, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner
Handling the Intellectual and Emotional Side in the Relationship
The notion of development has been hotly debated for centuries by men and women of knowledge, as demonstrated by the difficulty in accepting the theories of Darwinism. Within relationships, this concept becomes even more significant, because if you understand the notion that you are [...]
February 26, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, Sociology, The Pundit's Corner
For an article I’m writing for CNN.com, I’m seeking both nationally known relationship experts as well as “real” people to talk about this topic: when the person you married or fell in love with makes a drastic life change. Perhaps she used to love burgers, but then became a strict vegan and [...]
February 24, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, Sociology, The Pundit's Corner
WendyK Says:
How do you communicate with your spouse
I don’t really have any questions. Sounds boring I guess. But we seem to be doing good. After nearly 13yrs of marriage we have our rough stops, our fights but honestly we can’t imagine NOT being married to each other. [...]
February 23, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner
Periodically I will post questions and answers from blog interviews I have done on other blogs. Here is one regarding what to do if your spouse gets on your nerves.
Tim Kellis Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
Dorothy Says:
So excited to see [...]
February 19, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Book Review, Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Lifestyle, Marriage, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner
Here is a book review you might find interesting on “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”. Please visit www.happyrelationships.comto pick up your copy today, for a limited time at 20% off. Also please visit our blog at questforthehappymarriage.blogspot.com for an ongoing discussion.
Review
Book reviewer Jacqueline Jung says the disintegration of a love affair [...]
February 18, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Communications, Current Events, Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, The Pundit's Corner, The Writer's Corner, Uncategorized
Here is an article I wrote up regarding managing conflicts in relationships. You can view the blog story at the followin link questforthehappymarriage.blogspot.com. The article was written for a journalist for The Times Union.
So How Should Couples Handle Their Conflicts
I’m not a yeller. I never have been. [...]
February 17, 2009
Posted by TimKellis in: Education, Family, General Topics, Health & Fitness, Inspiration & Motivation, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Non-Fiction, Philosophical Genres, Relationships, Self-Help, Social Issues, Spirituality
This is my first post and I wanted to thank Bob for allowing me to join your community.
Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
I have written a relationship book that solves the marriage problem entitled “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”. I am just beginning my Internet [...]
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