Having written hundreds of articles on a wide variety of subjects over the years, I have had my fair share of comments and criticisms from my readership. My articles are typically designed to engage discussion. You won’t always agree with me, but I am trying to get people to think about things they normally overlook or take for granted. I have appreciated all of the feedback regarding my work, both pro and con. Compliments are flattering and appreciated but I also enjoy criticisms, to a point. If they are honest, articulate, and carefully thought-out, I enjoy them as much as the compliments. I learn from them. However, if they are vicious and aimed at character assassination, be it myself or someone else, they go directly to the recycle bin and the author loses all credibility with me.
I have one critic who I can regularly count on to try and refute everything I write about; if I say “black,” you can count on him to say “white,” regardless of the subject. At first I took him seriously, but when I noticed the frequency of his comments, I discovered he was only using my forum as a means to promote himself on the Internet. Consequently, I no longer engage in arguments with him and quietly remove his comments from my blog whenever they appear. If he wants a soapbox, let him write his own column and not piggyback on mine.
There are a few topics that will inevitably unleash a flurry of e-mails from readers; politics and religion are obvious ones, and trigger the most bloodthirsty responses. Attacking software developers is another. For some reason programmers feel free to criticize others, yet bitterly resent it when the shoe is on the other foot. I did an article on tattoos a few years ago which also triggered an avalanche of protest. The lesson here was when you discuss personal life choices, don’t expect people to remain mum on the subject.
I find subjects such as management and morality doesn’t seem to spark much discussion, maybe because people are not practicing either anymore. When it comes to the workplace, I believe people do not like to challenge the status quo and prefer to ignore controversy. Interesting. Perhaps people find it prudent to maintain a tight lip during these uncertain economic times.
I am a big proponent of constructive criticism, not destructive. Unfortunately, we see too many destructive comments thanks to the anonymity offered by the Internet. People will say things to you in a discussion group or an e-mail they would never dare say to you in person. These are the classless cowards of the Internet. I learned a long time ago you shouldn’t criticize unless you are prepared to offer an alternative, particularly in business.
All of this being said, I appreciate the feedback you have all given me over the years and I review everything that comes in and try to respond the best as I can. Keep those cards and letters coming!
Keep the Faith!
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Tim Bryce is the Managing Director of M. Bryce & Associates (MBA) of Palm Harbor, Florida and has over 30 years of experience in the management consulting field. He can be reached at timb001@phmainstreet.com
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Tim,
It has been some time since I have left this site. I received an e-mail from this site, showing that I was in the number three position on page views on this site over the last sixty days. What exactly that indicates, I am not sure, since it is going on almost two months since I left the site.
I found your article reflecting my own personal views, in many areas. As you, I too consider “The Unamed, the Cowards of the internet.” I do agree with disagreement done with taste and thoughtfulness, which I did not find in two posters on this site. One I noted in a twenty hour period….18 comments, and the runner-up….14 comments. Both in the majority of cases, were above the rude line, in their comment postings of members of this site. What I would consider truly “classes individuals, by all standards” were these two gentlemen. I am glad to see they have cleaned up their acts, since I left the site. Bob feels strongly that one should post, whatever they wish, while I, feel there is a line to be drawn when two posters in essence hurts the whole site. It is Bob’s site, and I can respect that.
I will say, that in a “sort of agreement now, with the first poster of this site,” I have had a change in my relious attitude over the last thirty days. I have come to the conclusion that “Organized religion” is a plot to further remove us from our personal relationship with God. The conclusion has come from my own personal experiences with three pastors over the last ten years. As the old Western saying goes, “These fellows were not worth spit as far as ministers and pastors go.” My continued best wishes in your writing. It is well done, and well worth reading. Respectfully,
John J. Rigo
Author and Publisher
Amidst Series of Poetry Books
(non-profit books to serve the “Homeless Cause” of Texas)
John -
Many thanks for the courtesy. A large part of the decline of our socialization skills can be attributed to the rising use of technology. This is something I am going to re-address soon. There’s a new book out on this subject and I know the author. Good stuff. Stay tuned.
All the Best,
Tim
Thanks Tim, I will look to read it. A P.S. My apology for two type-o’s, one is the word “Classes” which should read “Classless” and the other is “Religion” instead of above spelling. Blessings in your own personal journey.
John