You Don’t Love Me So Go Away

There is something to be said for forgiveness. Having been raised a Christian I realize its a chance to turn the other cheek and show that I am a good person. Its a chance to think what would Jesus do? Catholicism teaches us he died on the cross for our sins. But I wonder does that include the sin of cheating on one’s spouse or do those being cheated on have to be crucified in the court of public opinion in order to get into heaven?

It is easy to say forgiveness, harder to practice it. It  is even harder to live with infidelity when everyday your spouse reveals more morbid pieces of his lack of self control and tells the whole world he has been unfaithful and a lot. Then there is the final blow when he says that you are not his soul mate but he is going to try to fall back in love with you. Is he kidding? Are you seriously going to sit back and play martyr to keep a fake marriage alive? This is not a question of what would Jesus do, this is a question of what makes sense.  This is no time to turn the other cheek and it makes little to become a victim to a man who has abused his marriage vows and put his indiscretions at the top of his media priority list. Of course it doesn’t help the drugged out of his mind Rush Limbaugh has decided that the Democratic President is the cause of your Republican spouse’s fall from grace as a good husband.  Politics makes strange bedfellows but politics does not encourage infidelity- just makes it more accepted.

But to be honest if you publicly say you love your soul mate and you might TRY to love me again I don’t need you.

People in power get cocky. They often feel they have the right to certain privileges. And they take them. Its an a buse of power. Since we live in a technical world it is probably going to come to pass that your indiscretions end up on the Internet then progress to the evening news. There is no hiding behind a nice smile and a veil of false tears. Or the President who had nothing to do with your liaisons. You have done wrong and now its time to face the music.

Did you think about the woman you left behind? Probably not because you thought she’d still be there when your fun was over or once you were caught and needed someone to lean on as the cameras rolled. Maybe you planned to get down on your knees and beg forgiveness in the same manner in which you proposed marriage hoping to suggest the romance is still there. Other unfaithful and very public husbands, not always politicians,  have  bought their wives back to them with money, diamonds and private planes. Your vanity allowed you to say only what you felt- your wife is not your soul mate but you will try to love her again.

She really needs to dump you and run as far away from you as possible.

Why couldn’t you just keep your mouth shut when before the cameras? Did you really want to self destruct in public? It is not our business what goes on in your marriage until you put it out there for us to judge. Especially since you made such a big deal about extolling family values while casting stones at other politicians in previous years. Even if we had forgotten memory is enabled in this age of fast paced news and computer storage. We have only to look on the Internet and pull up everything you ever said about anybody. The memory chips don’t lie.

I am not judging this politician, he knows what he did is wrong. I don’t care about him at all, just about his wife and children. The eldest son is probably awash with embarrassment at what his father did and the rest of the sons will grow up either imitating their father or hating him.  This man has destroyed lives in the future just because he wanted to get it on with this soul mate in the present. Is it Christian of me to want a family to fall apart? I have to say yes when the family is suffering from abuse. Holding a marriage together for the sake of the kids or the political party is not what Jesus had in mind when he said we should forgive each other. There comes a time when we must interpret what we have learned on our own. You must not honor your father when he rapes you each night. You cannot love your husband when it is obvious he doesn’t love you.

But you can love yourself and move on to a better life and think of yourself as better for it. You, we, all of us deserve someone to love us for ourselves and not for our money, our family background, our political party or our good looks. We deserve to have a soul mate that cares and loves us with quiet dignity. Don’t let someone who doesn’t love you make a mockery of your life.  If you don’t love me, just go away.