Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
I want to pose to you one of the most significant questions needed to understand before we are going to solve our marriage problem. Are we biological beasts or psychological beings? Unfortunately the belief within the mainstream teachings of the psychology industry is that we are nothing more than biological beasts. The industry still experiments on animals to try to extrapolate behavior in humans.
Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?
It is impossible to completely explain the significance of going the biology route instead of the psychology route. The hypothesis that our behavior is driven by our biological needs implies we are born with our problems and there is not a damn thing we can do about it. The notion that our psyche is psychologically driven implies we can learn and we can think, or develop.
In other words, the biological concept holds we are born with our brain pre-wired and that our psychological development occurs when our experiences activate the pre-wired neurons and synapses creating behavior. Or put another way, the biological conclusion would lead psychologists to claim that our understanding of the use of the computer occurs because we are born with the knowledge of how to use the computer and we simply must use the computer and these pre-wired neurons and synapses become activated, giving us the understanding of the use of the computer, to behave by using the computer.
This is simply impossible. The computer was only invented in the seventies. There is no way our parents, grandparents, etc. would have had previous knowledge of how to use the computer, but my mom even knows how to surf the Internet.
The conclusion that we are biologically driven leads, unfortunately, to the fact that we are born with our problems and there is nothing that can be done to completely cure the patient, that there is no previous cause of our problems. This leads to the conclusion that there is no initial negative experience, no middle when we live with the negative experience, and no end where the patient is finally cured, becomes happy.
The psychological path, though, leads to the conclusion that there is a beginning, middle, and an end to our psychological problems, through thinking. God’s most wonderful gift to mankind is its ability to think. This conscious ability is what differentiates us from other animals who can feel, but can’t think. Animals feel. Just watch your dog wagging its tail when you come home from work, or attack another dog.
Tim Kellis
